Stroop Interference following Mood Induction:
Emotionality, Mood Congruence, and Concern Relevance
Eva Gilboa-Schechtman,1 William Revelle,2 and Ian H. Gotlib3
Research using the emotion Stroop task has established that individuals with various
emotional disorders exhibit increased interference for stimuli specifically related to
their disorder due to the concern relevance and negativity of these stimuli.
Our
study expands this research to normal populations. We examined the influence of
emotionality, mood congruence, and concern relevance following experimental mood-
induction procedures (MIPs) on emotion Stroop performance of college students.
Participants completed a computerized emotion Stroop task following positive and
negative MIPs. Results supported the mood congruence and concern relevance but
not the emotionality hypotheses.
The implication of these findings for theories of
emotional breakdown and the importance of studying the idiographic aspects of
affective experience are discussed.
A robust finding based on the emotion Stroop effect is that individuals suffering
from an emotional disorder exhibit selective processing of stimuli that are idiosyn-
cratic to their disorder (for reviews, see Logan & Goetsch, 1993; Mathews & MacLeod
1994; Williams, Mathews, & MacLeod, 1996).
This selective processing could be at-
tributed to three distinct factors: emotionality (i.e., the ‘‘emotional impact’’ of the
stimulus, regardless of its valence), concern relevance (i.e., the association between
the stimulus and the participant’s current concerns), and mood congruence (i.e., the
concordance between a person’s affective state and the valence of the stimulus).
For
certain stimuli, all three factors coincide. For example, social phobics are likely to
perceive such stimulus words as humiliation or rejection as extremely emotional, con-
gruent with their dysphoric affect, and highly related to their current concerns.
In
contrast, other stimuli may differentiate among these factors. For instance, the words
cancer or accident, although high in emotionality and negativity, are not related to
social phobics’ concerns. Similarly, words such as acceptance, although possibly high
in emotionality and in concern relevance, are not negative.
On the basis of an extensive review of the literature on emotional Stroop and
psychopathology, Williams et al. (1996) conclude that individuals with emotional
disturbance show disproportionate color-naming interference for negative stimuli
and for stimuli related to personally relevant themes.
It seems likely that the
interference of negative materials in clinical populations (which is over and above
the interference due to these materials’ concern relevance) is due to mood-congru-
ence effects. Stroop interference in highly anxious participants is influenced by
positive as well as negative mood (Richards, French, Johnson, Naparstek, &
Williams, 1992, Experiment 2).
Combined, these findings suggest that emotion
Stroop interference in clinical and subclinical participants is mediated by mood
congruence and concern relevance, but not by emotionality.
The extent to which each of the three factors—emotionality, mood congruence,
and concern relevance—affects Stroop interference in normal populations is not
yet clear.
Williams et al. (1996) hypothesize that concern relevance but not other
factors may characterize selective processing of nonclinical populations.
Indeed,
Stroop interference with concern relevant stimuli has been found in nonclinical
populations (e.g., Giles & Cairns, 1989; Riemann & McNally, 1995). In contrast,
there are mixed findings regarding the effects of mood congruence on selective
attention to valenced stimuli in nonclinical and subclinical populations.
Whereas
some researchers observed mood-congruent effects on Stroop interference following
an experimental mood induction (e.g., Mogg, Mathews, Bird, & Macgregor-Morris,
1990, Experiment 1; Richards et al., 1992, Experiment 2), others have not (e.g.,
Gotlib & McCann, 1984, Experiment 2; Riemann & McNally, 1995).
Most of these
studies did not attempt to separate the effects of mood congruence and concern
relevance. Finally, the effect of emotionality has received little attention in the
nonclinical literature.
The goal of our study is to investigate the effects of emotionality, mood congru-
ence, and concern relevance in a nonclinical population within a unified framework.
Specifically, consistent with the findings of Richards et al. (1993), we postulated that
individuals exhibit greater Stroop interference with mood-congruent stimuli in both
negative and positive mood states than with either neutral or mood-incongruent
words.
Second, we hypothesized that words highly related to individuals’ concerns
would elicit more interference than would words with low concern relevance.
No
specific predictions were made with respect to the effects of word emotionality. Differ-
entiating among the contributions of these three factors is essential to the understand-
ing of the general mechanisms underlying the emotion Stroop effect. Furthermore,
such an investigation is also crucial to the understanding of the similarities and differ-
ences in selective attention between clinical and nonclinical individuals, and thus may
potentially elucidate cognitive processes that are specific to emotional disorders.
Gilboa-Schechtman, Revelle, and Gotlib
METHOD
Participants
Eighty-four (84) college students participated in the experiment as part of a
course requirement. Participants were run in groups of 1 to 4. The experimental
Stroop Following Mood Induction
session lasted about 50 min. Data from three participants were lost due to equip-
ment failure.
Materials
There were six types of stimuli: experimenter-provided neutral words, experi-
menter-provided positive words, experimenter-provided negative words, partici-
pant-generated words involving neutral experiences, participant-generated words
involving positive experiences, and participant-generated words involving negative
experiences. Experimenter-provided neutral words were global, metric, tangible,
verbal, genetic, and temporal. Experimenter-provided negative words were hurt,
upset, lonely, depressed, helpless, and miserable. Experimenter-provided positive
words were excited, friendly, cheerful, joyful, tender, and carefree. The positive and
negative emotion words were equated for frequency, length, and emotionality based
on John’s (1988) ratings. Participant-generated words included personal ‘‘codes’’
related to a particular neutral, positive, or negative experience. For example, a
participant might provide the words message, physics, professor, and Tuesday as
his or her ‘‘codes’’ for a neutral experience.
Procedure
Participants were told that the experiment was designed to test the effects of
mood on simple cognitive processing. The stimuli and the instructions were pre-
sented on an Apple Macintosh IIci computer with a color monitor. The controlling
software handled the mood-induction procedure (MIP) and stimuli presentation.
It also recorded participants’ mood ratings and their reaction times (RTs) to
Stroop stimuli.
Introductory Phase
Participants were asked to recall a neutral, positive, and negative experiences
and provide four ‘‘key words’’ for these experiences. The order of recall of positive
and negative experiences was counterbalanced across participants. Next, partici-
pants practiced the Stroop task by identifying the color of a single stimulus (the
word practice) by pressing an appropriately labeled key. After reaching a criterion
performance level on this task,4 participants proceeded to the first mood-induction
phase: negative mood induction in the NP condition and positive mood induction
in the PN condition.
4
Criterion performance was defined as a sequence of 10 consecutive error-free trials, with the difference
between the mean time to respond to the preceding 10 trials and the mean of 10 final trials being no
more than 10%. The minimum number of trials (regardless of performance) was 40, and the maximum
number of trials was 100.
5
Other data-reduction strategies (such as eliminating response latencies 2 SD above each participant’s
mean) produced essentially identical results.
6
Analyses using the overall mood ratings are presented for the sake of simplicity. For both experiments,
analyses using individual mood scales produced essentially identical results.
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Experimental Phase
The experimental phases consisted of three steps: mood induction, mood rating,
and the Stroop task. During the mood-induction procedure, participants were first
instructed to reexperience sad/happy events using ‘‘relive’’ instructions adapted
from Salovey (1992). Next, participants concentrated on their feelings while listening
to music. An excerpt from Beethoven’s string quartet op. 131 was played for the
negative MIP. An excerpt from Vivaldi’s ‘‘Spring’’ concerto of the ‘‘Four Seasons,’’
op. 12, was played for the positive MIP. The concentration step lasted about 1 min.
Finally, before proceeding to the Stroop task, participants rated their current mood
on six unipolar (sad, frustrated, anxious, happy, content, and optimistic) and one
bipolar (overall) visual analog scales. The unipolar scales were anchored with not
at all (coded as intensity rating of 0) and extremely (coded as intensity rating of
100). The overall scale was anchored with very positive (coded as intensity rating
50) and very negative (coded as intensity rating of 50).
During the Stroop task, participants were presented with 150 stimuli. The
intertrial interval was 2 sec.
The stimuli for this task were six words from each of
the experimenter-provided categories and four words from each of the participant-
generated categories. Participants saw five presentations of each word from this
30-word stimulus list, resulting in a total of 150 presentations. The order of presenta-
tion and the color of stimuli were randomly determined for each participant subject
to the constraint that no two consecutive words were displayed in the same color.
Following the completion of the Stroop task, participants rated their moods.
Between the two experimental phases, participants completed a 5-min long
filler task evaluating the computer program they were using.
This filler task was
intended to ensure that the effects of the first MIP would dissipate before the
beginning of the second MIP. After the completion of the filler task, participants
proceeded to the next experimental phase. Apart from the valence of the mood
induced (positive in the NP condition, negative in the PN condition), the structure
of the second experimental phase was identical to that of the first. Specifically, after
completing an MIP, participants rated their mood and performed the Stroop task.
Neutralizing Phase
In order to stabilize participants’ mood before the end of the experiment,
participants were asked to relive the previously recalled neutral experience. Their
mood ratings after the completion of the neutral MIP were taken to represent their
baseline mood. Finally, the participants were debriefed and thanked for their partici-
pation.
RESULTS
Data Analysis
Trials involving incorrect key pressing or extreme scores [i.e., response time
(RT) longer than 2500 ms or shorter than 333 ms] were eliminated from further
Stroop Following Mood Induction
analyses. Excluded responses occurred on 5% of the trials, and their number did
not differ as a function of word type.
Efficacy of MIPs
To determine the efficacy of the positive and negative MIPs, participants’
overall mood rating were analyzed using two separate two-way ANOVAs. We
computed mood change scores as the differences between participants’ overall
mood ratings after an induction and their mood ratings at baseline (i.e., after the
neutral MIP). Mean negative and positive change scores were 12.3 (SD 18.1)
and 22.5 (SD 19.4), respectively. Absolute change scores were analyzed using a
three-way ANOVA, with order of recall (NP vs. PN) and order of MIP (NP vs.
PN) as between-subjects factors and valence of MIP as a within-subject factor. No
effects or interactions involving either order of recall or order of MIP were found.
Test of simple effects indicated that both negative and positive change scores
38.4, p
.001, and F(1,79)
102.7,
differed significantly from zero (F(1,79)
p .001, respectively). The positive MIP produced greater changes in self-ratings
than did the negative MIP, F(1,79) 8.9, p .05. To ensure that the PN and the
NP groups did not differ in the baseline mood scores, we examined overall baseline
mood scores. Mean baseline scores of the PN and NP groups were 5.7 (SD
14.7) and 4.6 (SD 11.3), respectively. A one-way ANOVA on baseline overall
mood ratings was conducted. No differences between the groups’ baseline moods
was revealed, F(1,79) 1.
Mood Congruence, Concern Relevance, and Emotionality Effects
Table I presents the means and standard deviations of RTs to different stimulus
types in the positive and negative experimental conditions.
Preliminary analyses of reaction times were conducted with order of emotional
experience recall (PN vs. NP) as a between-subjects variable and word frequencies
and word length as covariates. No main effects or interactions involving any of
these variables were detected in these analyses, nor did they qualitatively modify
any other main effect or interaction. Therefore, these variables were omitted from
the final analyses.
A potential problem in using participant-generated vs. experimenter-provided
Table I. Means and Standard Deviations of Response Latencies for Stimulus Identification
Condition
Negative
Positive
Note: N
80. Standard deviations (in milliseconds) are shown in parentheses.
Experimenter
Neutral
Negative
772
(127)
747
(105)
Positive
806
(142)
748
(108)
Stimulus origin
Neutral
786
(135)
763
(110)
796
(130)
759
(119)
Participant
Negative
812
(150)
756
(122)
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materials is that these two sets of stimuli might differ on several lexical dimensions,
such as word length, word frequency, and so on. To assess whether these differences
in lexical properties influenced RT, we conducted several regression analyses. For
each valence category (i.e., positive, negative, and neutral), we regressed the mean
RT to participant-generated words (predicted variable) on three predictors: the RT
to experimenter-generated words, the mean frequency ratings of this participant-gen-
erated category (computed using Francis & Kucera, 1982, norms), and the mean word
length measures of this participant-generated category. For example, the RT to neu-
tral participant-generated words was regressed on the RT to neutral experimenter-
provided words, mean frequency ratings of the neutral key words provided by this
participant, and mean word length of these neutral key words. None of the partial
correlations between RT to participant-generated words and word frequency ratings
or word length measures approached significance (all ps 0.3). These analyses sug-
gest that differences in lexical properties between stimulus sets did not exert signifi-
cant influences on reaction time. It is important to note that this conclusion is in line
with the results of all past investigations regarding the effects of lexical properties on
emotion Stroop RTs: neither word length nor word frequency accounted for Stroop
interference effect with personally relevant words (e.g., Riemann, Amir, & Luoro,
1994; Riemann & McNally, 1995; Williams et al., 1996).
To examine concern relevance, emotionality, and mood-congruence hypothe-
ses, mean RTs were analyzed using a four-way ANOVA, with order of MIP (PN
vs. NP) as a between-subjects variable, and mood-induction valence (negative vs.
positive), word origin (participant vs. experimenter), and word valence (neutral,
mood congruent, or mood incongruent) as within-subject variables. There was no
main effect of order, F(1,79)
1.18, n.s. As expected, there was a time effect as
indicated in this analysis by a significant MIP Order interaction, F(1,79) 20.8,
p .001. This effect indicated that participants’ RTs were longer in the first mood-
induction condition than they were in the second mood-induction condition (mean
RTs for the first and second MIPs were 800.1 and 751.2, respectively). No other
significant interactions involving Order emerged from these analyses (all ps 0.1).
A significant effect of MIP was revealed, such that participants’ RTs in the
negative condition were significantly longer than were their RTs in the positive
condition (mean RTs in the negative condition
793.9 and positive condi-
tion
759.2, F(1,79)
9.6, p
.01).
A main effect of Origin indicated that participant-generated words elicited
significantly more interference than did words provided by the experimenter,
F(1,79)
19.9, p
.001. There was a significant effect of word Valence,
F(2,158)
3.14, p
.05. Two planned comparisons were conducted to clarify
this effect. The first indicated that mood-incongruent words did not elicit more
interference than did neutral words, F 1. The second planned comparison indi-
cated that mood-congruent words elicited more interference than did neutral words,
F(1,79)
11.0, p
.001. There was a significant MIP
Valence interaction,
F(2,158)
8.4, p
.001. A planned comparison indicated that, in the negative
MIP, participants’ RTs to negative words were longer than they were to positive
words, whereas this pattern was reversed in the positive MIP, F(1,79)
12.1,
p .01. There were no other significant interactions.
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To examine whether the main effects of Valence and Origin were significant
in the negative and positive mood-induction conditions, we conducted separate
three-way ANOVAs for each of these conditions. In each ANOVA, order of MIP
(PN vs. NP) was a between-subjects variable, and word origin (participant vs.
experimenter) and word valence (neutral, mood congruent, or mood incongruent)
were within-subject variables.
In the analysis of RTs in the negative condition no main effect of Order was
identified, F
1. There were no other interactions involving Order (all ps
.2).
There was a significant effect of word Valence, F(2,158)
7.7, p
.05. Planned
comparisons indicated that negative words elicited more interference than did
neutral or positive words among experimenter-provided words (t(79)
3.9; p
.01; t(79)
2.8, p
.05, respectively). Identical pattern was observed among
participant-generated words (t(79) 2.1, p .05; p(80) 1.95; p .05, respectively).
A main effect of Origin F(1,79)
15.6, p
.05 as found. RTs to participant
generated words were longer than to experimenter provided words. This effect was
modified by a significant Origin
Valence interaction, F(2,158)
4.7, p
.05.
Post-hoc comparisons indicated that the effect of word origin was greater for the
neutral words than for negative or positive words (F(1,79)
4.75, p
.05; and
F(1,79) 9.4, respectively).
In the analysis of RTs in the positive condition a main effect of Order was
identified, F(1,79) 9.8, p .001. RTs in the NP condition were faster than RTs
in the PN condition. There were no other interactions involving Order (all ps
.2). A main effect of Origin F(1,79) 8.5, p .05 was found. RTs to participant-
generated words were longer than to experimenter-provided words. There was a
significant effect of word Valence, F(2,158)
3.5, p
.05. Planned comparisons
indicated that positive words elicited more interference than neutral or negative
words among experimenter-provided words (t(79) 2.8; p .05; t(79) 2.0, p
.05, respectively). No such differences were observed among participant-generated
words (all ps .2). There was no significant Origin Valence interaction, F 1.
DISCUSSION
We investigated the effects of mood congruence, concern relevance, and emo-
tionality on Stroop interference following experimentally induced positive and nega-
tive moods in a nonclinical population. Our results support the mood-congruence
and the concern-relevance hypotheses, but not the emotionality hypothesis. First,
consistent with the mood-congruence hypothesis, we found that interference effects
in the negative condition were specific to negative-emotion words, and that interfer-
ence effects in the positive condition were specific to the positive-emotion words.
Our results are consistent with those reported by Richards et al. (1992) in demonstra-
ting that both positive and negative affective states increase the selective processing
of mood-congruent materials. Second, words generated by the participants elicited
more interference than did experimenter-provided materials, supporting the con-
cern-relevance hypothesis. It is important to note that this effect was not due to
lexical differences between the two stimulus sets. We concur, therefore, with
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Mathews and Klug (1993), who state that judgments of personal emotional relevance
are stronger predictors of interference than are judgments of emotionality per se.
Finally, inconsistent with the emotionality hypothesis, mood-incongruent words,
although as ‘‘emotional’’ as mood-congruent ones, did not elicit interference com-
pared to neutral words. In contrast, mood-congruent words elicited significantly
more interference than did neutral words. It is possible that previous research that
identified emotionality effects (e.g., Martin, Williams, & Clark, 1991) confounded
the effects of emotionality with the effects of concern relevance.
Nonclinical individuals’ pattern of selective attention seems to parallel that of
high-trait anxious, clinically anxious, and clinically depressed individuals (Williams
et al., 1996). Combined, these data suggest that, for all populations, concern rele-
vance and mood congruence contribute independently to Stroop interference,
whereas emotionality does not. If so, what distinguishes clinical from nonclinical
processing of valenced stimuli? One possibility is that the difference is merely
quantitative. Indeed, the effect sizes in studies with clinical participants are greater
than the effect sizes in our study (see Williams et al., 1996). Alternatively, it is
possible that the differences between clinical and nonclinical individuals manifest
themselves in the strategies they use to cope with their cognitive interference
rather than in the interference itself. Individuals with clinically significant emotional
problems may not be able to inhibit such interference, whereas nonclinical individu-
als may be able to override it (Gotlib, Roberts, & Gilboa, 1996).
Our findings suggest several explanations for the inconsistent pattern of results
regarding the mood-congruence hypothesis using the emotional Stroop task. First,
the specifics of the mood-induction procedures might affect the strength of Stroop
interference. Bower (1987) suggests that the induction of ‘‘weak, temporary and
nonspecific moods of happiness and sadness in the laboratory have not primed
perceptual processing of the general class of positive and negative words, respec-
tively’’ (p. 448), and argues further that to obtain a mood-congruence effect, the
priming may have to point to a more specific set of words and emotional themes.
Consistent with Bower’s hypothesis, ‘‘focused’’ affective states (e.g., those induced
by autobiographic MIPs) may be more likely to be associated with Stroop interfer-
ence than ‘‘diffused’’ inductions (e.g., Velten MIP). Indeed, Niedenthal, Haberstadt,
and Setterlund (1997) found that focused emotional states affect lexical decisions
and word-naming latencies of emotion-congruent words.
Mood congruence is a well-recognized phenomenon with respect to memory and
judgment processes. Researchers have consistently found enhanced memory for
mood-congruent materials in nonclinical individuals (Blaney, 1986; Matt, Vazquez, &
Campbell, 1992). Similarly, research on judgment processes suggests that experimen-
tally induced moods affect participants’ judgments of a variety of real and hypothetical
events (for a review, see Gotlib, Gilboa, & Sommerfield, in press). However, mood
congruence is less well established with respect to attention. Thus far, the association
between attention and mood has been limited to negative affective states, especially
anxiety (e.g., Mathews & MacLeod, 1994). Moreover, studies attempting to obtain
mood-congruence effects in attentional tasks with a wider range of affective states
(typically sadness and happiness) yield an inconsistent pattern of findings (e.g., Chal-
lis & Krane, 1988; Clark, Teasdale, Broadbent, & Martin, 1983).
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Our findings using the emotion Stroop task suggest that mood congruence may
extend to attentional processes as well. However, it is frequently argued that this
task is not a pure measure of attention (e.g., MacLeod & Mathews, 1988; Mathews &
MacLeod, 1985). In particular, a Stroop task in which the stimuli are presented in
a ‘‘blocked’’ format (i.e., the stimuli are grouped by word type, such that, for
example, all negative words are presented in succession) may not provide a ‘‘pure’’
measure of attention because the post-attentional rumination about a negatively
valenced word might delay the color naming of the next word (e.g., McNally,
Riemann, & Kim, 1990). It is important to note that our Stroop task involved a
random rather than a blocked presentation of the Stroop stimuli, making the Stroop
interference index less likely to be contaminated by post-attentional processing.
Thus, our results, combined with those of Richards et al. (1992) and Niedenthal et
al. (1997), suggest that mood affects attentional processes in negative (e.g., anxious
and sad) as well as positive affective states (see also Williams et al., 1996). Therefore,
consistent with Beck’s (1976) and Bower’s (1981) theories of the relation between
affect and cognition, the effects of mood on cognitive processes extend beyond
memory and judgment to attentional processes.
LIMITATIONS AND FUTURE DIRECTIONS
The present research examined parameters affecting selective processing of
valenced information, using laboratory-induced positive and negative affective
states. Obviously, experimental mood induction enlists participants’ cooperation in
modifying their affective states and therefore creates demand characteristics. Might
the participants be consciously attending to critical words in order to please the
experimenter, rather than responding ‘‘naturally’’? We think this is unlikely for
two reasons. First, both musical MIPs and autobiographic MIPs were found to be
effective in influencing objective (e.g., reaction time) as well as subjective (e.g.,
mood rating) measures (e.g., Niedenthal et al., 1997; Salovey, 1992). In addition,
reviews of the mood-induction literature suggest that MIPs affect a variety of
cognitive, physiological, and psychomotor measures (e.g., Larsen & Sinnett, 1991;
Gerrards-Hesse, Spies, & Hesse, 1994). For example, Neidenthal et al. (1997, Experi-
ment 3) found that emotional state influenced attentional processes using lexical
decision and word-naming tasks. Second, although demand characteristics for clini-
cal subjects with their disorder-relevant words should be no less obvious than the
demand characteristics after MIPs, studies using subliminal Stroop found that the
pattern of interference with subliminally presented words resembled the pattern
of interference with superliminal stimuli (MacLeod & Rutherford, 1992; Williams
et al., 1996). Therefore, it seems unlikely that emotional Stroop interference in
our study depends on participants’ conscious decisions to attend more to mood-
congruent stimuli. However, it will be important to replicate these findings using
techniques in which the demand characteristics are less salient (e.g., film clips,
as in Gross & Levenson, 1995; or naturally occurring affective states) and other
cognitive measures.
In our discussion, we emphasize the effects of mood on the selective processing
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of valenced information. Yet it is also possible that the observed selective processing
can be partially accounted for by the effects of cognitive priming independent of
mood. According to the cognitive-priming hypothesis, mood congruence is associ-
ated with the cognitive activation of affective concepts, rather than with the effect
of mood per se (e.g., Rholes, Riskind, & Lane, 1987). Although in our experiment
cognitive priming does contribute to selective processing of emotion-related materi-
als, affect-free cognition is unlikely to be the sole cause of this selectivity. First,
we found that participants selectively processed mood-congruent experimenter-
provided words, which were not part of the participants’ recollected events. Experi-
menter-provided words, not being part of the autobiographic memories retrieved
by the participants, are related to these memories primarily through affective associ-
ations. Second, the effects of cognitive priming typically dissipate within seconds
(e.g., Fischler & Goodman, 1978), whereas the selective-processing effects observed
in our studies persisted for minutes. These arguments notwithstanding, our results
are unlikely to resolve the debate about cognitive vs. affective priming, partly
because emotional effects and cognitive priming of emotion-relevant materials are
not easily separable. To fully disentangle the effects of cognitive and emotional
priming, future research might attempt to examine the effects of recollection per
se (without the emotional reexperience) on selective processing.
In interpreting our findings, we assumed that interference with participant-
generated stimuli is due to the relevance of these stimuli to participants’ personal
concerns. However, the process of generating these materials, rather than their
concern-relevant content, may have made those stimuli more salient to the partici-
pants. Indeed, words that are generated by participants tend to be better remem-
bered than words that are provided by the experimenter (e.g., Gardiner & Hampton,
1985). Although it is possible that the process of stimulus generation facilitates
selective attention, we believe it is unlikely that our effect is due solely to this
process rather than to the content of these stimuli. First, we have found differentially
selective processing of self-generated stimuli in positive and negative mood-
induction conditions. If only the process of generating these materials, rather than
their content, affected selective attention, such differences would not be found.
Second, the repeated activation of memory traces, which results in generation effects
in memory tasks, need not necessarily result in corresponding effects in attentional
processing. Future research, employing other procedures to elicit idiographic materi-
als, might examine whether our results regarding Stroop interference depend on
the self-generation effect. Enhanced salience of idiographic materials is not unique
to the self-generation procedure. For example, rating of materials for the degree
of ‘‘disturbance’’ before performing the Stroop task is also likely to increase the
salience of those materials (e.g., McNally et al., 1994). However, replicating our
results with other elicitation procedures (e.g., rating) will reinforce the present
findings.
Finally, future research should explore mood congruence in clinical and subclin-
ical populations. So far, research has concentrated on examining clinical individuals
in their natural (i.e., anxious or dysphoric) mood. This research established that
naturally occurring negative states are associated with selective processing of nega-
tive materials. However, a comprehensive test of the mood-congruence hypothesis
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also requires a demonstration that selective attention to positive emotional material
occurs in positive affective states. Unfortunately, positive mood inductions with
clinical populations have not been conducted. Such studies would enable us to
further explore the similarities and differences between clinical and nonclinical
populations and, ultimately, to understand the nature of emotional breakdown.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
This research has been supported in part by grant IRI-8812699 awarded to
Andrew Ortony by the National Science Foundation, in part by Anderson Con-
sulting through Northwestern University’s Institute for the Learning Sciences, and
in part by contracts MDA903-90-C-0108 and MDA903-93-K-0008 from the U.S.
Army Research Institute awarded to William Revelle and Kristen Anderson.
We are indebted to Andrew Ortony, Susan Mineka, and Colin MacLeod for
many thoughtful comments and suggestions that greatly influenced this work.
Correspondence concerning this article should be addressed to Eva Gilboa-
Schechtman, Department of Psychology, Bar-Ilan University, Ramat Gan, 52900,
Israel. E-mail: gilboae@mail.biu.ac.il.
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Congruence and Therapeutic Presence
Leslie S. Greenberg
Shari M. Geller
Congruence is probably the most complex of Rogers’ three therapist offered
conditions, yet the least explicated.
As Rogers developed his ideas, he came to
see genuineness as the most basic of the conditions (Rogers and Sanford, 1984)
Possibly because of it’s later emergence as a central element, it has not received as
much attention as the other conditions, particularly empathy.
We will discuss the
concept of congruence and suggest that to be clearly understood, congruence
needs to be seen as being a process embedded in an appropriate network of beliefs
and intentions.
We will in addition suggest that it is this tacit framework of intentions
and beliefs that informs the therapist in how to be skillful in communicating
congruently.
We will also review the concept of presence and discuss it’s relation to
congruence, suggesting that therapeutic presence be viewed as an encompassing
concept that acts as a pre-condition to congruence and possibly as a pre-condition
to therapeutic effectiveness in humanistic therapies in general.
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Of the three therapist offered conditions, congruence often has been the most
troublesome to the general disciplines of psychology and psychiatry. It has been
misinterpreted either as being a license for the therapist to openly express all of his
or her feelings or needs in an undisciplined manner, or has been viewed as a
condoning what psychodynamic therapists would view as negative counter-
transference. In the sixties and seventies being authentic, self-disclosing and
encountering, often was proclaimed as central to good therapy by a number of
humanistic therapists — without much further specification of what authentic meant
or how it was therapeutic therapists (Schutz 1970). This rightfully led to the concern
among many that unbridled openness could be destructive. These
misunderstandings of what is meant by therapeutic congruence require the
clarification of this concept and an explication of some of its underlying assumptions.
Lietaer (1993) pointed out that congruence or authenticity can, at an initial
level of analysis, be broken into two separate components. These are 1) The ability
to be aware of one’s own internal experience, and 2) transparency, the willingness
to communicate to the other person what is going on within. Rogers (1961), in
using the notion of being ‘real’ with other people, appeared to emphasize both
dimensions. By being congruent he meant not only being aware of one’s own
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internal experience but also of sharing it with the other. Thus congruence clearly
has two components — an internal component involving awareness of one’s
own flow of experience and transparency, an outer component, that refers to
explicit communication. It is with this latter component of openness and honesty
that much of the controversy around congruence has raged.
The claim that being transparent is therapeutic requires, in our view, the
specification of the set of preconditions and beliefs, intentions and attitudes that
are needed for this aspect of congruence to be therapeutic. To simply teach young
or novice therapists that they should be congruently transparent is not always
helpful. This is because being transparent presumes a certain level of personal
development and certain intellectual and value commitments. Congruence thus
does not stand alone as a therapeutic ingredient. In our view, therapeutic
congruence, as well as involving awareness and transparency, also requires that
the therapists’ internal experience arises out of attitudes, beliefs and intentions
related to doing no harm to clients and to facilitate their development. This is
the psychotherapeutic equivalent of a Hippocratic Oath.
In Person Centered therapy congruence has always been seen as being a part
of a triad of therapeutic attitudes along with empathy and unconditional positive
regard. In dialogical Gestalt therapy, the emphasis on therapists genuineness or
authenticity is based on Buber’s (1958) I-Thou relationship in which a genuine
meeting of client and therapist involves, among other things, the therapist’s
presence and non-exploitiveness. The Rogerian attitudes of a willingness to
understand the client and the prizing of a client’s experience, and Gestalt notions
of presence and non-exploitiveness, all entail intentions that are necessary for
congruence to be therapeutic. To be facilitatively congruent, therapists thus need
to be committed to understanding and respecting their clients. They need to
operate both with a genuine desire not to have power over their clients and with
a belief in the therapeutic importance of accepting their clients’ experience as
valid. Finally they need to be fully present and in contact with their clients as
well as themselves. These intentions both precede being facilitatively congruent
and are themselves important aspects of therapeutic congruence.
Varieties of congruence
One of the major purposes of congruence in psychotherapy is to help establish
trust. As Rogers said, when we are ‘real’ with each other, this facilitates trust and
communication (Rogers 1961). But of course, being real is in and of itself very
complex and needs further clarification. In a post modern era, in which
constructivist notions highlight how much is either psychologically or socially
constructed (Neimeyer and Mahoney, 1995), notions of what is real become fuzzy.
Being one’s real self, for example, has always been a problematic idea because it
implies there is such an entity as a real self, rather than seeing that the self is a
process of construction (Greenberg and van Balen, 1998; Whelton and Greenberg,
2000). Being congruent, however, when seen as a process of awareness and
openness in the moment, escapes the problem of claiming some greater
ontological validity for certain aspects of self. Being real in facilitative relationship
thus implies that the therapist does not hide relevant feelings and thoughts and
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at particular times communicates certain present and persistent feelings or
thoughts in certain ways to help build trust and openness in the dyad. This,
however, is not done manipulatively or strategically. Rather it is done from the
therapist’s experience in the moment of a genuine desire to help. It is important
to emphasize that the doing aspect of congruence involves an expressive intention
rather than a goal oriented one.
Congruence, like empathy, (cf. Bohart and Greenberg, 1997, Greenberg and
Rosenberg, 2000) is not a unitary phenomenon. Rather it includes a variety of
intentions, beliefs and attitudes and manifests in a variety of experiences and
behaviours that differ at different times. We need to recognize that although
congruence is a holistic concept, it refers, in therapy, to a complex, multifaceted,
phenomenon that is embedded in a network of attitudes, beliefs and intentions
that results in doing different things at different times.
When I am being congruent, as well as being open to my experience, I am
also doing different things at different times depending on the person I am with,
the situation and the specific in-therapy context in which I am being congruent
(cf. Wyatt 2000). Being present or fully attuned to the moment is a necessary
guide, both to being open to my own experience and to knowing how to respond
to the unique interplay of person, situation and context. Different situations call
forth different congruent actions. These can, and need to be, specified further if
we are to clearly understand what is meant by therapeutic congruence.
For example, being congruent may involve the therapist saying what she is
feeling in her body at the time. It may involve speaking of a feeling that has been
persisting over time, and actually is not being felt at the moment, in any visceral
way. Or being congruent may involve the therapist saying something that
spontaneously captures her sense of the moment. Also, the current or general
feelings being expressed congruently may range from compassion to anger, from
threat to joy, and depending on which feeling is being felt, it will be expressed in a
very specific way with it’s own expressive intentions. Anger, for example, may be
expressed in order to set boundaries and to assist in resolving the feeling of being
wronged; compassion may be expressed in order to share it and to comfort; fear is
probably often expressed in order to inform the other of one’s reaction to him or her.
In addition to disclosing what one is feeling, being congruent may involve
saying what one is thinking, disclosing an image, sharing a past experience of
one’s own, or commenting on the interaction between persons. The intentions
here may be to convey one’s understanding or deal with a relational difficulty. A
highly integrated and/or well- trained therapist, dedicated to helping, will
produce congruent responses of a different kind and quality than will an
undifferentiated or egocentric therapist or a novice. Being therapeutically
congruent thus can be seen to involve a complex set of interpersonal skills as
well as the intra-personal skill of awareness.
We suggest that the communicative aspects of congruence involve the ability
to translate intra-personal experience into certain types of interpersonal
responses, such that these responses will be consistent with certain implicit
intentions. The deeper level intentions include, in addition to valuing and
understanding the other, the intentions to facilitate the others development, to
be accepting and non-critical of the other, to confirm the others experience, to
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focus on their strengths and, above all, to do the other no harm. These intentions,
and more, are what determine whether congruence is therapeutic. If one had a
genuine desire to harm, being congruent would not be therapeutic.
To acknowledge the tacit intentions underlying congruence does not mean
that congruence is not a spontaneous emergent experience in which one feels
whole. Feeling whole when being congruent results from the therapist’s intentions
and actions being integrated and forming a coherent whole. In a congruent state,
intentions are not in opposition and do not conflict with each other — neither
does one intention or experience obscure or suppress another, opposing one.
Being congruent — the internal awareness component.
Being aware of one’s own flow of internal experience and connecting with the
essence of one’s feeling, is a central component of congruence (Rogers, 1954).
The internal awareness component is the easiest aspect of the concept to endorse
as universally therapeutic. In our view it is always therapeutic for the therapist to
be aware of her own feelings and reactions as this awareness orients her, and
helps her be interpersonally clear and trustworthy. This inner awareness and
contact naturally flows from the experience of therapeutic presence. Therapeutic
presence is important in the practice of experiential therapies. As we will elaborate
later, therapeutic presence involves, among other qualities, being receptively open
and sensitive to one’s own moment by moment, changing experience; being fully
immersed in the moment; feeling a sense of expansion and spaciousness; and
being with and for the client. These and other aspects of presence will be discussed
more explicitly in the next section. Throughout this paper we assert that
therapeutic presence is thus essential to congruence.
With awareness there is less likelihood of a discrepancy between verbal and
non-verbal behavior and clients come to know that what they see is what they
get — they learn that there are no hidden agendas. This helps the client feel safe
and reduces interpersonal anxiety. This reduction in interpersonal anxiety allows
clients to tolerate more intra-personal anxiety and thereby to explore more deeply.
If the therapist is not aware of her feelings in interaction with her client she is
unlikely to be an effective helper because she will not have access to vital
information being generated in her therapy relationships — it would be like
operating in the dark. We know that we are most effective in helping others when
we are clear and aware of our own flow of internal experience, especially experience
that is generated out of our moment by moment interactions with our clients.
Types of incongruence.
Looking now at incongruence in the dimension of self-awareness, it is important
to note some of the different ways in which therapists can be incongruent.
Different types of incongruence for example occur:
(1) when therapists are aware of their experiencing but deliberately not
communicating. (Sometimes this is appropriate and sometimes not).
(2) When therapists are not clearly aware of what they are fundamentally
experiencing because of being anxiously unclear.
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(3) When therapists are completely unaware of their basic experience.
The first occurs when the therapist is clearly aware of feeling or thinking
something and is deliberately not saying this. Here the therapist can be
dissembling, trying to convey something he is not feeling. Then he is being phony
or fake, trying either to be nice or supportive or appear interested when he is not.
Another form of deliberate non-transparency is when he deliberately chooses
not to say something of what he feels or thinks, because it seems like it would be
distracting, or when what he is feeling seems to be more of his own ‘stuff’, or the
timing seems wrong.
The second type of incongruence is being anxiously unclear. Here a therapist’s
anxiety blocks his ability to have a flow of experience. When this occurs he is
usually unable to put this experience into words, especially at first. He may
become aware of being threatened but is unable to process this, and his awareness
becomes fused with a bodily sensed quality of tension and tingly-ness.
Consciousness becomes prickly, breathing is altered and shoulders and arms
tense up. He is then unable to listen clearly to his clients’ words or to be in touch
with his own flow of experience. The anxious body sense interferes both with
attending to his client and with putting his experience into words and may
dominate the therapist’s awareness.
In the above examples, the therapist is clearly aware of a feeling of threat.
However there are other states in which so much is happening or everything is
occurring so quickly, that the therapist is not aware. It is only later that he can
notice that he was threatened. Trainers can see that trainees often are not able to
be aware of feeling threatened when it is occurring. In this third type of
incongruence there is no awareness at the time of feeling threatened, nor of what
is occurring internally. At such times the first step for therapists in becoming
congruent, is to be able to recognize that they are feeling threatened. Yet other
forms of this type of lack of awareness in congruence can occur. For example, a
therapist can express something, in the belief that it is truly what he means, but
he is unaware that certain currently unrecognized needs are influencing his
expression. Another form of being incongruently unaware occurs when the
therapist expresses what we have called a secondary emotion rather than a
primary emotion (Greenberg et al 1993). Thus the therapist may experience and
express anger without, at that moment, being able to recognize his underlying
hurt. Here, the therapist expresses a secondary reaction to what was said and is
not in touch with essential or core self experience.
These three forms of in-congruence — conscious nondisclosure, anxiety that
prevents clear awareness and lack of awareness — all differ from one another.
Each type of incongruence involves a different process of becoming congruent,
even though it involves the common elements of being aware, and the ability to
articulate one’s own internal experience. One process involves attending to that
which is known, another focusing on the not yet articulate, and another entails
getting to what is core and acknowledging the previously unacknowledged.
Therapists generally are neither fully congruent nor incongruent, but are
congruent to differing degrees. Thus congruence itself is a process. Another
problem with the concept of congruence/incongruence is that the concept has
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a realist flavor to it, suggesting that the therapist feels something explicit and is
either aware or not aware of it. The situation however, is much more complex.
The second form of incongruence above, for example, involves the therapist being
unable to articulate in the moment what he or she is experiencing. Here the
therapist is unable to construct meaning from what is going on rather than
denying to awareness something already formed — it is not that he has a feeling,
for example of feeling ‘diminished’ sitting inside fully formed, and is unaware of
it. Rather he is unable, at the moment, to create a coherent description or narrative
of himself in the situation (Greenberg and van Balen, 1998). Thus he is unable to
articulate or configure his experience into a conscious description; he cannot
symbolize his tacit experience and is not able to make sense of his experience as,
perhaps, that of feeling diminished. The anxiety or threat is often a symptom of
being stuck and unable to carry-forward one’s experience in one’s body with
words. This, of course, is what Gendlin (1964) was pointing out in his concept of
experiencing. We (Greenberg and Pascual-Leone, 1995, 1997, 2001 Greenberg
and van Balen, 1999) have moved to the use of the word ‘coherence’ to replace
congruence in an attempt to capture the constructive element of being genuine
and to deal with the difficulty mentioned above with the concept of being real.
In being congruent, I form the moments of my experience, as much as I purely
discover them. This is a creative process, and when I’m being incongruent it is
this process that is blocked. In asserting this, I am not saying there is not
something there in me to which I can attend. There really is some bodily felt
experience there, but until I put words to it to create coherent meaning I am
stuck. This process of becoming congruent by coherence is more like the ‘seeing’
of a rabbit in a cloud formation than seeing a rabbit behind a tree. In seeing a
rabbit in the clouds I configure what I see from what is there. So too do I configure
myself in each moment from the elements of my experience. One form of
incongruence therefore is not being able to find the words, symbols or referents
to an experience, so as not to be able to make sense of and experience meaning.
Being congruent — an interpersonal skill
The case of transparency, or the communication component of congruence, is
much more complicated than the self-awareness component. It seems that being
facilitatively transparent involves many interpersonal skills. This component
involves not only the ability to express what I’m truly feeling but to express it in a
way that is facilitative. Transparency thus is a global concept for a complex set of
interpersonal skills embedded within a set of therapeutic attitudes. We argue
that the skills depend on three factors. First on therapist attitudes, second on
certain processes such as facilitativeness, discipline and comprehensiveness, and
third on the interpersonal stance of the therapist.
First, and probably most important, congruent responses as we have seen,
need always to be embedded within the therapist conditions and need to be
communicated non-judgmentally. In life, clearly one can be congruently
destructive. Thus one can congruently attack or even murder. We all know this is
not what we mean by the term congruence in therapy, because the term
congruence is really qualified, tacitly, by a number of other beliefs and views. We
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thus find it helpful to use the word ‘facilitative’ to qualify the word congruent.
When Person-Centered therapists say they are expressing themselves
genuinely, they mean they are being transparent in a disciplined manner. In order
to do this, therapists need first to be aware of their deepest level of experience —
and this may take time and reflection. Next, they need to be clear in their intention
for sharing their experience — that this is for the client or the relationship and
not for themselves. It is also always important for therapists to be sensitive to the
timing of disclosure — sensing whether clients are open to, or too vulnerable to
receive what one has to offer. Discipline thus involves not blurting out whatever
the therapist is feeling and making sure that what is expressed is a core or primary
feeling rather than a secondary. Another qualifying concept that helps to clarify
the transparency aspect of congruence is comprehensiveness — that congruence
needs to mean ‘saying all of it’. The therapist not only expresses the central or
focal aspect that is being felt, but also the meta-experience — what is felt about
what is being felt and communicated. Thus saying that one feels irritated or bored
is not saying all of it. Therapists need also to communicate their concern about
this potentially hurting their clients and express that they are communicating
this out of a wish to clarify and improve a connection, not destroy it. This is what
we mean by ‘saying all of it’.
Figure 1: Structural Analysis of Structural Behavior — (Adopted from Benjamin, 1999)
Emancipate
Separate
Affirm
Ward off
Active love
Recoil
Protect
Sulk
Control
Submit
SASB simplified cluster model of focus on other
Interpersonal stance — the third factor
The set of skills involved in facilitative congruent communication can be
explicated further, by looking at congruent interaction in terms of the
interactional stance as described by a circumplex grid of interpersonal interaction.
This grid is based on the two major dimensions of dominance/control and
closeness/affiliation. Lorna Benjamin (1996) has devised a coding system called
the Structural Analysis of Social Behavior (SASB) that can be used to describe
interpersonal interaction along these dimensions (see fig 1). Consistent with
interpersonal theory, this grid outlines a set of complementary responses that fit
SASB simplified cluster model of focus on self
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each other and that interactionally ‘pull’ for each other. Thus attack pulls for
defend or recoil, and affirm pulls for disclose or reveal. The skill of congruent
responding involves not reacting in a complementary fashion to a negative
interpersonal ‘pull’ of the client — like recoiling when attacked — but rather to
act in such a way as to ‘pull’ for a more therapeutically productive response from
one’s client, such as ‘clearly express’. This would be achieved, for example, by an
empathic understanding response to an attack.
The eight clusters of complementary positions are attack-recoil, blame-sulk,
control-submit, protect-trust, active love-reactive love, affirm-disclose,
emancipate-separate and ignore-wall off. Each cluster in turn is broken into more
specific behaviors. The cluster Affirm, for example, includes friendly listen, show
empathic understanding and confirm, and responses such as these pull
respectively for the complementary responses of openly disclose and reveal,
clearly express and enthusiastic show. The blame cluster includes punish, accuse/
blame, put down/act superior which respectively pull for, complementary
responses of whine/defend, justify/ appease, sulk/act put upon.
In addition to specifying complementary interactions, this system can be used
to understand the type of response that is the antithesis to a certain behavior,
and will act as an antidote to entering into an undesirable repetitive circular
interaction. The antithesis is the complement of what one would like the other to
do. Therapists who do not react to the negative pull of the client’s response —
but instead respond in a new way — will pull for a more constructive response
from their clients. Thus to overcome a blame-sulk cycle, a response from a
therapist to a client’s blame, of affirm rather than sulk, would pull for disclose
rather than continued blame. The affirming response has a high probability of
leading to a change in the interaction, as it will more likely pull for disclosure or
exploration from the client.
Facilitative congruent responses are most likely to fall in the high-affiliation,
low-dominance portion of the grid, or what Benjamin terms the friendly
differentiation quadrant. These responses include those in the affirming and
emancipate clusters mentioned above. Some of the specific behaviors included
in the emancipate cluster are entitled ‘encourage separate identity’, ‘you can do
it fine’’ and ‘carefully consider’. Responses by a therapist in the high dominance,
low affiliation portion of the grid — what is called the hostile differentiation
quadrant — are generally not facilitative. These include the clusters of attack
and ignore, with behaviors such as attack, angrily dismiss, abandon and neglect.
These behaviors pull for desperate protest, withdraw, detach and wall off,
respectively. The other two quadrants in this grid are friendly and hostile
enmeshed. They include clusters of responses such as protect, in the friendly
enmeshed quadrant, and blame, in the hostile enmeshed quadrant, with a cluster
of controlling responses at a mid-point between friendly and hostile.
The issue of whether hostile responses in therapy are ever therapeutically
congruent, remains to be explored. These types of hostile, dis-affiliative
interactions certainly generally would not promote trust, but at times however
for example if a client is testing a therapists limits to the extreme, a congruent
response of anger at violation in particular circumstances might be a trust
building response.
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Dealing with difficult feelings
The skills of congruent responding in dealing with difficult feelings, then, involve
the following: First, identifying one’s own internal feeling response — this is the
general skill of awareness. Next is the skill of responding. As we have explicated
elsewhere (Rice and Greenberg 1984), in order to best describe both client and
therapist responses it is useful to look at the context in which they occur. With
respect to congruence, the context is where on the interactional grid the person’s
action, to which one is responding, falls. For example, in the context of being
attacked the first step involves the therapist becoming aware of what he feels
when being attacked — which often is feeling threatened. This feeling then needs
to be symbolized in awareness. The next step in being facilitatively congruent is
being able to communicate feeling threatened in a non-blaming, non-escalatory
manner. Here according to the SASB model, therapist’s responses perceived by
clients as openly disclosing and revealing are likely to facilitate friendly listening,
while empathic understanding will facilitate clear expression from the client. It
is the interpersonal stance, particularly that of disclosing, that is crucial in making
transparency facilitative. For example, in the context of feeling angry, a therapist’s
facilitative congruent process involves first checking if her anger is her most core
feeling, if it is, then she needs to disclose this in a non-blaming, non-escalatory
fashion. If the therapist is feeling more hurt or diminished or threatened, rather
than angry, then congruence involves being aware of this and disclosing this in
an effective manner.
There are recognizable classes of difficult experiences that are often discussed
when addressing congruence in training or teaching counsellors, for example,
trainees often ask: What do you do if you feel angry? What do you say if you feel
bored? What do you say if you feel sexual? What do you say if the client doesn’t
leave, or if you feel rejecting? Situations such as these represent interpersonal
interactions, which can be well understood and described on the interpersonal
dimensions of affiliation and control or dominance. As we have seen, the
facilitativeness or destructiveness of expression is dependent on the quadrant in
which the expression falls. Anger expressed as attack from the hostile dominant
quadrant, or feeling sexual expressed as love in the close quadrant without
sensitivity to power and boundary violation issues, will not be facilitative.
Similarly, expressions of boredom or expressions of rejection (e.g. of somebody’s
dependence) that occupy an interactional position of being distant or ignoring,
will not be facilitative. These responses respectively will pull for recoil, erotic love
or walling off. The issue becomes one of how does a therapist helpfully interact
when feeling one of these feelings or when this type of issue arises in a relationship
in which the therapist is trying to be facilitative?
As we have already said, if the therapist responds from an affirming stance
this is likely to be facilitative. This is the baseline response in Person Centered
and other supportive therapies. But what to do when the therapist is not feeling
affirming but is feeling angry, critical and rejecting and can’t get past this feeling,
to something more core? Each interactional response, in order to be faciltatively
congruent, involves first connecting with the fundamental attitudes or intentions
of trying to be helpful, understanding, valuing, respecting and non-intrusive or
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non-dominant. This will lead to these feeling being expressed as disclosures. If
the interpersonal stance of disclosing is adopted, rather than the complementary
stances of attack, expressing erotic desire, or rejection, then this congruent
response is more likely to be facilitative. It is not the content of the disclosure
that is the central issue in being facilitative, rather it is the interpersonal stance of
disclosure in a facilitative way that is important. What is congruent is the feeling
of wanting to disclose in the service of facilitating, and the action of disclosing.
The different ways of being facilitatively congruent in dealing with different
classes of difficult feeling are, then, to some degree specifiable — they all involve
adopting a position of disclosing. Thus expressing a feeling that could be perceived
of as negative in a stance that is disclosing, rather than expressing it in the stance
that usually accompanies that feeling, will help make it facilitative. Disclosure
implicitly or explicitly, involves willingness to, or an interest in, exploring with
the other what one is disclosing. For example, when attacked or feeling angry, a
therapist does not attack the other but rather discloses that he is feeling angry. He
does not use blaming, ‘you’ language. Rather he takes responsibility for his feelings
and uses ‘I’ language that helps disclose what he is feeling. Above all he does not
go into a one up, escalatory, position in this communication but rather openly
discloses feelings of fear, anger or hurt. When the problem is one of the therapist
experiencing non-affiliative, rejecting feelings or loss of interest in the client’s
experience, the interactional skill involves being able to disclose this in the context
of communicating congruently that the therapist does not wish to feel this. Or,
the therapist discloses these feelings as a problem getting in the way and that
she is trying to repair the distance so that she will be able to feel more
understanding and closer. The key is communicating what could be perceived
as negative feelings in a congruently facilitative way, generally occupying an
interactional position of disclosure in the non-dominant affiliative quadrant.
For example a very fragile and explosive client once told me in an intense
encounter that she feared me and hated me because I was so phony and that I
acted so presumptuously in assuming that I understood what she felt. She said
she saw me as a leach trying to suck her emotional life out of her and that, although
I professed good intentions, I was really out to destroy her. Under the mounting,
relentless attack I told her I felt afraid of her anger, and tears came to my eyes as
I told her how I hurt. This was disclosed without blame or recrimination or without
an explicit power or control related intention to get her to stop. Just a disclosure
of what it felt like inside for me in that moment. This disclosure did have her stop
and drew from her some of her concern for me.
Can genuineness be specified?
Some readers may feel that specifying what it is to be genuine is a contradiction
in terms, because if congruence involves internal awareness and revealing it,
then trying to specify what the therapist should do, defeats the purpose of
revealing what is real. If genuineness means only spontaneity, it cannot be viewed
as a skill. Being genuine involves first and foremost feeling whatever one is
experiencing. Therefore anything employed as a skill has to be felt or used
genuinely. Genuineness, as the experience of a unique agent, cannot be specified
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beforehand. It is what it is. But what one does with it, provided it is done genuinely,
can be seen as a skill.
The discussion of whether the Rogerian attitudes can be translated into
behavioral principles and skills has a long and extensive history (Barrett -Lennard,
1999). Fundamentally, the conditions, including congruence, are attitudes not
behaviors, but if the appropriate attitudes are there, they will translate into
behaviors that have noticeable characteristics. We are suggesting that laying out
some of the principles that govern facilitative congruent communication will
help make congruence more specifiable. The SASB grid, or some such system of
describing interpersonal behavior, will help greatly to do so. The principles being
specified here for therapeutic congruent communication are that the therapist
responses be embedded in helping attitudes and be affirming or disclosing
responses, and that it is the interpersonal stance, not the content of the
transparent response, that is important in making it therapeutic.
It is significant to recognize that this is not a proposal that a therapist’s genuine
responses be determined by some pre-existing system, or that therapeutic
responses be deliberate or strategic position taking. Rather, congruent responses
have to be a genuine reflection of what the therapist feels and thinks. People are
extremely perceptive and sensitive to the genuineness of any response and so it
is only when the response genuinely fits the correct stance and has facilitative
intentions, that we will have a congruent response that is facilitative.
As in learning any complex performance, like playing a piano concerto, or
playing soccer, having both the requisite skill and developing a higher level of
integration is necessary. It is the tacit synthesis of skills and other elements that
produces masterful performances. The dilemma in training therapists is that
some people naturally seem to have the ability to be facilitatively congruent
without specifying what this involves, but some don’t. I have trained many students
who do not perform well initially in how they are genuine or congruent. It often
can be quite confusing for them. To people outside of a humanistic tradition the
prescription to be genuine often seems incomprehensible. This is because the
concept has not been fully explicated. Some grasp it intuitively but others don’t. If
we are to train people to be better therapists and not just select those with natural
abilities we need to train them in both the attitudes and skills of congruence.
While the practice of specific skills can be helpful to the development of
therapeutic abilities, letting go of these skills and any planned intent on how to
be congruent, when entering the therapy session, is extremely important and
the basis of therapeutic presence. This letting go of preconceptions and skills is a
part of a preparation that occurs with therapeutic presence, as can be seen in the
model of therapeutic presence in the next section. The learning of skills becomes
integrated on a tacit level and the appropriate response arises out of the in the
moment interaction of person, situation and experiencing. Being empty, open,
and receptive to this in the moment, and experiencing and responding from the
therapists’ authentic center involves trust, in the process, in the therapist’s own
emerging experience, and in the client’s experience, and is the foundation of
therapeutic presence as we will see below.
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Presence involves being fully in the moment and directly encountering all aspects
of experience with one’s whole being on a multitude of levels — including
physical, emotional, mental and visceral — from a grounded and centered
position within oneself. Presence is a quality that can be experienced in many
life situations such as art, watching a sunset, teaching, or in quiet meditation
with one’s self. This discussion and the subsequent research is focused on the
therapist’s presence in the psychotherapeutic encounter, which we term
therapeutic presence. The experience of presence in art or other life situations
and therapeutic presence share similar qualities. Therapeutic presence however,
is distinguished by focusing on the therapist’s presence in an encounter, intended
as healing, in which the therapist intention is to be with and for the other. Even
though the focus here is on therapeutic presence, we will use the terms presence
and therapeutic presence interchangeably as has been done in the literature.
The concept of congruence, then, needs to be qualified in order for its
therapeutic nature to be understood. We propose that in addition to the
importance of the above-mentioned intentions, beliefs and skills, the therapist
needs to be fully present in the therapeutic encounter in order for congruence to
be therapeutic. Therapists cannot bring extraneous personal baggage, needs, or
even agendas for therapy into the encounter. Being able to be fully present to the
other is a highly developed skill that requires a letting go of preconceptions and
full attention in the moment. In order to be fully present, the therapist needs to
have developed a level of psychological maturity or level of functioning that is
rather high, or at least be able to attain this while in session.
A number of humanistic theorists suggest that therapist presence is a
necessary condition for creating a positive and supportive therapeutic
environment. It also has been seen as a key means to help clients to become
more present with their own experience and hence move in a direction of inner
growth and understanding (Buber, 1958; Bugental, 1983, 1987; Hycner, 1993;
Hycner and Jacobs, 1995; Schneider and May, 1995).
Rogers (1980) in his later writings claimed presence as important:
When I am at my best, as a group facilitator or as a therapist, I discover another
characteristic. I find that when I am closest to my inner, intuitive self, when I am
somehow in touch with the unknown in me, when perhaps I am in a slightly
altered state of consciousness, then whatever I do seems to be full of healing.
Then, simply my presence is releasing and helpful to the other. There is nothing
I can do to force this experience, but when I can relax and be close to the
transcendental core of me, then I may behave in strange and impulsive ways in
the relationship, ways in which I cannot justify rationally, which have nothing to
do with my thought processes. But these strange behaviors turn out to be right,
in some odd way: it seems that my inner spirit has reached out and touched the
inner spirit of the other. Our relationship transcends itself and becomes a part of
something larger. Profound growth and healing and energy are present (p.129).
May (1958) uses Rogers’ general comments on the nature of what it means to be
a therapist to show what he means by presence:
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I let myself go into the immediacy of the relationship where it is my total
organism which takes over and is sensitive to the relationship, not simply my
consciousness. I am not consciously responding in a planful or analytic way,
but simply in an unreflective way to the other individual, my reaction being
based (but not consciously) on my total organismic sensitivity to this other
person. I live the relationship on this basis (p. 82)
Few theoretical writings exist on therapist presence and most of what is written
is qualified by the ineffability of this important quality.
Hycner and Jacobs (1995) describe presence as a turning of the whole self to
the other — not just attending to the other but turning away from preoccupation
with self and offering one’s whole being to the other.
This involves viewing the
other in his/her uniqueness and acceptance that this is a different and unique
person, where ‘no other concern is paramount.’
Bugental (1987) writes that presence is ‘A name for the quality of being in a
situation or relationship in which one intends, at a deep level, to participate as
fully as she is able.
Presence is expressed through mobilization of one’s sensitivity
— both inner (to the subjective) and outer (to the situation and the other person(s)
in it) — and through, bringing into action one’s capacity for response.’
And that
‘full presence means being truly accessible and appropriately expressive.’ (p.222)
Schneider and May (1995) posit that ‘presence holds and illuminates that
which is palpably (immediately, kinesthetically, affectively, and profoundly)
relevant between therapists and clients and within clients. It is the ground and
eventual goal of experiential work’ (p. 174).
The goal of presence, in their view, is
to illuminate clients’ experiential world, provide a safe container for immersion
to occur, and to deepen client’s ability to constructively use her discoveries.
Therapeutic presence can be viewed as an essential therapeutic stance to open
the way for other therapist stances, such as Rogers’ therapist-offered conditions of
congruence, empathy, and positive regard, to be used and lived as part of the therapy
process.
A greater specification of therapeutic presence then seems important. In
order to further understand and describe therapeutic presence, a number of
therapists were therefore interviewed on their experience of presence in therapy.
Figure 2: Therapeutic Presence
Preparing the ground
Process of presence
(a) Receptivity
Experiencing presence
(a) Immerson
(a) Arriving and clearing a
space immediately before
the session
(b) Expansion
(b) Inwardly acting
(b) Practicing presence in life
(c) Grounding
(c) Extending and contact
(d) Being with and for the client
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Understanding therapeutic presence
The authors (Geller, 2000; Geller and Greenberg, 2000) conducted a qualitative
study whereby seven experienced therapists from four different theoretical
orientations, who were familiar with, and knowledgeable about, the qualities of
therapeutic presence, were interviewed on their experience of presence in therapy.
A form of qualitative analysis combining condensation and categorization of
meaning was used to extract meaning units from the interviews (Kvale, 1996)
The analysis resulted in the model shown in Fig. 2.
Three overarching
categories of therapeutic presence were formed from the respondents’ reports.
One category was labeled preparing the ground for presence, referring to the pre
session and general life preparation for therapeutic presence.
Another category
described the process of presence, the processes or activities the person is engaged
in when being therapeutically present, or what the therapist does when in
presence. The third category reflected the actual in-session experience of presence.
Expanded description of presence
Preparation
Therapists described the importance of preparing the ground for therapeutic
presence to emerge, both prior to the session and through practice in their daily
life.
The therapist arrives at the session holding the intention to be fully there
with the client and to let go of his own and daily concerns. The therapist brackets
or suspends his own beliefs, assumptions, needs and concerns in order to fully
attend to what is occurring in the moment and to respond to the other based on
the experience of the moment.
The therapist clears a space inside where he can
receive whatever experience emerges in the client, in the self, or in the relationship
between the two with a sense of openness, acceptance and non-judgement.
Therapists also discussed a sense of commitment in their daily lives to the
practice of presence. Some of the therapists interviewed referred to their
meditation practice as an essential aid in being in the moment.
Ongoing care for self needs, relationships and personal growth were also viewed as support to the
practice of presence in session with the client.
Being present in one’s own life
and in personal relationships appear to be a part of the growth and development
essential for developing presence in session.
The process
Preparation appears to be an essential part of moving into presence, however,
once in session the therapist responds to whatever presents itself in the moment.
This involves a shifting awareness of the many different elements that go into a
moment of encounter with the client, including the professional and personal
being of the therapist, the being of the client, and the relationship between them.
The interaction of all these aspects in a given moment guides the therapist in
his/her understanding and response.
There is a quality of movement in the process of presence that demands the
therapist be fully immersed in each moment as it arrives. This movement involves
shifting from taking in the fullness of the client’s experience in one moment
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(receptivity), to being in contact with how that experience resonates in the
therapist’s own body (inwardly attending), to expressing that inner resonance or
directly connecting with the client (extending and contact).
Put another way, the
therapist is touched by the essence of the other, is in contact with her own
experience of how she is touched by the other, and offers this inner experience
in a way that touches the other’s essence. The therapist’s movement of attention
and contact is guided by what is most poignant in the moment.
The experience
The experience of presence involves a sense of total absorption, inner expansion,
grounding in one’s self, and being with and for the client. Therapeutic presence
involves feeling intimately engaged in the experience of each moment with the
client, with an expanded sense of awareness of the subtleties and depth of the
experience of each moment.
The therapist experiences a melding with the client
and a loss of spatial boundaries, while maintaining a sense of center and grounding
within himself in that shared space.
A sense of love and respect is felt towards the
other as the therapist meets the client in way that is with, and for, the client’s healing.
Therapeutic presence thus involves having a heightened awareness and
sensitivity to the many dimensions of experience on a moment to moment basis.
There is an absence of awareness of time, a lack of a sense of past or future.
With
therapeutic presence, the therapist is highly absorbed and engaged in the
encounter with this other human being and with the person’s suffering.
The
therapist does not turn away from the suffering of the other by labeling,
categorizing, or objectifying. Nor is the therapist engaged in focusing on her own
burdens or sufferings or worrying about how she should act or intervene.
Rather
the therapist meets the other’s suffering and pain with care, openness, awareness,
and acceptance. The therapist engages with the other as a human being and
allows herself to get as close as possible to the client’s experience while
maintaining a sense of center and grounding within her own existence.
With
presence, the therapist experiences a deep sense of trust within self, with the
process, and with the experience of the client. The therapist trusts that whatever
emerges is important and necessary for healing to occur.
This openness to and
allowing of experience is accompanied by an energized and flowing experience
in the body and in the interaction between the therapist and client.
In summary, therapeutic presence involves therapists being open and
sensitive to their own and their clients’ moment by moment, changing, awareness
and experience. This is a process of being receptive, being fully there with oneself,
and extending and making genuine contact with the client.
The experience is
one in which the therapist feels fully immersed in the moment while feeling a
sense of expansion and spaciousness, and feeling grounded and centered. It
involves a being with the client rather than a doing to the client. It is a state of
being open to all aspects of being with the client and receiving the client’s
experience in a gentle, non-judgmental and compassionate way, rather than
observing and looking at or even into the client.
This inner receptive state of the
therapist is the ultimate tool in understanding the client. Therapeutic presence
involves meeting the other in the moment where the person is, rather than trying
to change her or him in some way.
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Presence involves an absence of judgement and instead allows for a deeper
understanding and acceptance of the client’s world. This promotes moments of
genuine meeting and this in turn invites clients to safely express and explore
their conflicts and issues.
Therapeutic presence is therefore an essential stance
in humanistic therapies, where the therapist provides a safe and supportive
container for the client’s natural growth tendency to emerge.
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Despite presence having been posited by some as the groundwork for therapy,
the relationship between presence and congruence has not been discussed very
extensively and little empirical literature on therapeutic presence has been
generated to date. Some authors have written about presence in a way that
equates presence with congruence (Kempler, 1970; Webster, 1998).
Based on this
study it is our view that the concept of congruence does not incorporate all the
subtle aspects of presence, yet therapeutic presence includes therapist authenticity
in feeling and expression. Therapeutic presence thus prepares the ground for
congruence, is a precondition of congruence, and also goes beyond it.
Beyond internal awareness and expression
Congruence as we defined it involves awareness and transparency. Therapeutic
presence as determined from this investigation involves the process of receptivity,
inwardly attending and extending and contact, and the experience of, immersion,
expansion, grounding and being with and for the client.
It appears that the process
of inwardly attending and extending and contact, to some degree, parallel
awareness and transparency.
What therapeutic presence appears to add to
congruence is first the preliminary necessity of receptively being empty and open
to receive the totality of the client’s and one’s own experience. Receptivity comes
prior to Inwardly Attending to one’s experience of being with the other (awareness)
and Extending and sharing one’s genuine experience (transparency).
Therapeutic
presence in addition adds to congruence a specification that the therapists be
fully Immersed in the moment with the client, experience a sense of Expansion
while maintaining a Grounding in themselves. Further, although Being With and
For the Client is implied by congruence it is not explicitly in the definition.
The
awareness and transparency components of congruence therefore do not capture
the state of receptivity and intimacy with the moment involved in presence, nor
do they capture the experience of intense focus, and the combination of
expansiveness and grounding in the self.
In our view congruence therefore is an aspect of, and flows from, therapeutic
presence, but is not fully encompassing of the total experience of presence.
However, the more presence there is for the therapist, the more she will be
congruent in experience and responses.
Receptive and open: A prerequisite
Therapeutic presence precedes congruence in that the therapist must first be
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present to be receptive to, and make contact with, the fullness of the client’s and
her own immediate experience in order to understand what is being experienced
and how to respond.
The experience that is received, and experienced, resonates
in the therapist’s body and is experienced as a bodily sense in the form of feelings,
words, or images.
Being congruent at this point involves a moment of attending
inwardly to that which is being presently experienced. As we discussed, a key
aspect of congruence is being open to, and aware of, one’s ongoing flow of inner
experiencing. Here the therapist uses her bodily sense as a navigational tool in
responding to the client.
If the therapist was not present and hence not fully
open and involved, she would not be accessing the rich source of experience to
which to attend that allows her to make a split second choice as to whether, or
how, to respond from this experience.
Immersion, expansion, and grounding: going beyond congruence
In order to be acutely aware within his experience and to genuinely share his
experience with the client, the therapist needs to be immersed in the experience
of the moment with the client. Congruence is thus experienced and held in the
larger space of presence. With therapeutic presence the therapist experiences a
sense of expansion and openness.
There is a sense of deep trust and a sense of
spaciousness containing the intensity of what is being felt and expressed.
Therapeutic presence also adds to congruence a sense of grounding which
includes the therapist trusting his own felt and expressed experience. For example,
even though the therapist may be feeling intense shame, there is a calm and
trust with what is being experienced and expressed.
With congruence (and
therapeutic presence) there is a match between the intensity that the therapist
feels and the behavior that is shown. With therapeutic presence, the therapist
feels that intensity while feeling a sense of grounding in self. He feels trust in his
experience and in the process itself.
Being with and for the client: facilitative congruence and therapeutic
presence
A key aspect of the experience of therapeutic presence also involves the intention
of being with and for the client in a healing encounter. Holding the intent to not
harm the other, but instead being with the other in a way that is helpful is key in
therapeutic presence. This helping motivation is also central to being congruent
in a way that is facilitative, as mentioned previously in this paper.
If the therapist
is present with his own experience, and with the client, then the decision to share
his genuine experiencing is going to be guided by this intention.
The therapist
needs to be present with, and aware of, his own experience and be able to assess
whether it is his own issues that are emerging — and need to be put aside
temporarily — or if what is emerging could be of benefit to the client’s healing
process.
The therapist thus needs to be open and aware of his own internal
experience and genuinely sharing, while being in contact with the intention of
being there with, and for, the client.
This aspect of therapeutic presence also allows the therapist to be aware and
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sensitive to his experience (and of course the client’s experience) so that he can
be congruent in expression in a way that is sensitive to timing. What is being felt
does not just leak out in a way that is impulsive or driven by the need to release
— hence the need for discipline.
This quality also takes a level of development
and maturity and even skill in being present with what is true in each moment. It
could mean being able to withstand some discomfort (for example in the case of
shame) and to show that potentially vulnerable feeling to the client in a way that
does not ask anything more than for the client to also be present.
What makes
the therapist therapeutically present is his willingness to be with that experience
of shame and to express it to the client while holding the intention of helping the
client or bettering the therapeutic relationship.
CONCLUSION
We have argued that for congruence to be therapeutic, the concept requires
further specification. We have suggested that first, congruence needs to be seen
as being embedded within a network of intentions and attitudes, among which
the intention to do no harm is primary.
Second we have suggested that the skill
of communicating congruently in a facilitative and disciplined manner appears
to be characterized by the adoption of a non-dominant, affiliative, stance.
Congruent communication of this type conveys a therapeutic intent to either
disclose the therapist’s internal experience, or to affirm the client’s experience
and further, these pull for listening or disclosure from the client.
Finally we have
suggested that therapeutic presence is a necessary pre-condition of congruence
and at the same time is a larger experience that contains congruence as an aspect.
More particularly, it allows the type of receptivity and intimacy with the moment
that will promote both a true meeting of client and therapist, and the healing
that occurs through this type of meeting.
The self of the therapist is brought to the encounter with the client with a
willingness to experience all that the encounter entails. She is receptive and
sensitive to the fullness of the client’s experience. This direct and immediate
encounter with the depth of the client’s experience and with a deep trust that
what is emerging is important and helpful in the process, is the very essence of
therapeutic presence. It is the sensitivity to the moment and grounding in oneself
that allows the therapist to know how to be with the other in the therapeutic
encounter — when to be transparent with experience or when to purely resonate
with the client’s pain.
Therapeutic presence is an essential precondition for congruence, particularly
to allow the type of receptivity and intimacy with the moment that will promote
a true meeting of client and therapist and the healing that occurs through this
type of meeting. Therapeutic presence is also a larger experience that contains
congruence and allows it to be more completely facilitative and genuine.
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Leslie S. Greenberg
Shari M. Geller
Congruence is probably the most complex of Rogers’ three therapist offered
conditions, yet the least explicated.
As Rogers developed his ideas, he came to
see genuineness as the most basic of the conditions (Rogers and Sanford, 1984)
Possibly because of it’s later emergence as a central element, it has not received as
much attention as the other conditions, particularly empathy.
We will discuss the
concept of congruence and suggest that to be clearly understood, congruence
needs to be seen as being a process embedded in an appropriate network of beliefs
and intentions.
We will in addition suggest that it is this tacit framework of intentions
and beliefs that informs the therapist in how to be skillful in communicating
congruently.
We will also review the concept of presence and discuss it’s relation to
congruence, suggesting that therapeutic presence be viewed as an encompassing
concept that acts as a pre-condition to congruence and possibly as a pre-condition
to therapeutic effectiveness in humanistic therapies in general.
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Of the three therapist offered conditions, congruence often has been the most
troublesome to the general disciplines of psychology and psychiatry. It has been
misinterpreted either as being a license for the therapist to openly express all of his
or her feelings or needs in an undisciplined manner, or has been viewed as a
condoning what psychodynamic therapists would view as negative counter-
transference. In the sixties and seventies being authentic, self-disclosing and
encountering, often was proclaimed as central to good therapy by a number of
humanistic therapists — without much further specification of what authentic meant
or how it was therapeutic therapists (Schutz 1970). This rightfully led to the concern
among many that unbridled openness could be destructive. These
misunderstandings of what is meant by therapeutic congruence require the
clarification of this concept and an explication of some of its underlying assumptions.
Lietaer (1993) pointed out that congruence or authenticity can, at an initial
level of analysis, be broken into two separate components. These are 1) The ability
to be aware of one’s own internal experience, and 2) transparency, the willingness
to communicate to the other person what is going on within. Rogers (1961), in
using the notion of being ‘real’ with other people, appeared to emphasize both
dimensions. By being congruent he meant not only being aware of one’s own
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internal experience but also of sharing it with the other. Thus congruence clearly
has two components — an internal component involving awareness of one’s
own flow of experience and transparency, an outer component, that refers to
explicit communication. It is with this latter component of openness and honesty
that much of the controversy around congruence has raged.
The claim that being transparent is therapeutic requires, in our view, the
specification of the set of preconditions and beliefs, intentions and attitudes that
are needed for this aspect of congruence to be therapeutic. To simply teach young
or novice therapists that they should be congruently transparent is not always
helpful. This is because being transparent presumes a certain level of personal
development and certain intellectual and value commitments. Congruence thus
does not stand alone as a therapeutic ingredient. In our view, therapeutic
congruence, as well as involving awareness and transparency, also requires that
the therapists’ internal experience arises out of attitudes, beliefs and intentions
related to doing no harm to clients and to facilitate their development. This is
the psychotherapeutic equivalent of a Hippocratic Oath.
In Person Centered therapy congruence has always been seen as being a part
of a triad of therapeutic attitudes along with empathy and unconditional positive
regard. In dialogical Gestalt therapy, the emphasis on therapists genuineness or
authenticity is based on Buber’s (1958) I-Thou relationship in which a genuine
meeting of client and therapist involves, among other things, the therapist’s
presence and non-exploitiveness. The Rogerian attitudes of a willingness to
understand the client and the prizing of a client’s experience, and Gestalt notions
of presence and non-exploitiveness, all entail intentions that are necessary for
congruence to be therapeutic. To be facilitatively congruent, therapists thus need
to be committed to understanding and respecting their clients. They need to
operate both with a genuine desire not to have power over their clients and with
a belief in the therapeutic importance of accepting their clients’ experience as
valid. Finally they need to be fully present and in contact with their clients as
well as themselves. These intentions both precede being facilitatively congruent
and are themselves important aspects of therapeutic congruence.
Varieties of congruence
One of the major purposes of congruence in psychotherapy is to help establish
trust. As Rogers said, when we are ‘real’ with each other, this facilitates trust and
communication (Rogers 1961). But of course, being real is in and of itself very
complex and needs further clarification. In a post modern era, in which
constructivist notions highlight how much is either psychologically or socially
constructed (Neimeyer and Mahoney, 1995), notions of what is real become fuzzy.
Being one’s real self, for example, has always been a problematic idea because it
implies there is such an entity as a real self, rather than seeing that the self is a
process of construction (Greenberg and van Balen, 1998; Whelton and Greenberg,
2000). Being congruent, however, when seen as a process of awareness and
openness in the moment, escapes the problem of claiming some greater
ontological validity for certain aspects of self. Being real in facilitative relationship
thus implies that the therapist does not hide relevant feelings and thoughts and
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at particular times communicates certain present and persistent feelings or
thoughts in certain ways to help build trust and openness in the dyad. This,
however, is not done manipulatively or strategically. Rather it is done from the
therapist’s experience in the moment of a genuine desire to help. It is important
to emphasize that the doing aspect of congruence involves an expressive intention
rather than a goal oriented one.
Congruence, like empathy, (cf. Bohart and Greenberg, 1997, Greenberg and
Rosenberg, 2000) is not a unitary phenomenon. Rather it includes a variety of
intentions, beliefs and attitudes and manifests in a variety of experiences and
behaviours that differ at different times. We need to recognize that although
congruence is a holistic concept, it refers, in therapy, to a complex, multifaceted,
phenomenon that is embedded in a network of attitudes, beliefs and intentions
that results in doing different things at different times.
When I am being congruent, as well as being open to my experience, I am
also doing different things at different times depending on the person I am with,
the situation and the specific in-therapy context in which I am being congruent
(cf. Wyatt 2000). Being present or fully attuned to the moment is a necessary
guide, both to being open to my own experience and to knowing how to respond
to the unique interplay of person, situation and context. Different situations call
forth different congruent actions. These can, and need to be, specified further if
we are to clearly understand what is meant by therapeutic congruence.
For example, being congruent may involve the therapist saying what she is
feeling in her body at the time. It may involve speaking of a feeling that has been
persisting over time, and actually is not being felt at the moment, in any visceral
way. Or being congruent may involve the therapist saying something that
spontaneously captures her sense of the moment. Also, the current or general
feelings being expressed congruently may range from compassion to anger, from
threat to joy, and depending on which feeling is being felt, it will be expressed in a
very specific way with it’s own expressive intentions. Anger, for example, may be
expressed in order to set boundaries and to assist in resolving the feeling of being
wronged; compassion may be expressed in order to share it and to comfort; fear is
probably often expressed in order to inform the other of one’s reaction to him or her.
In addition to disclosing what one is feeling, being congruent may involve
saying what one is thinking, disclosing an image, sharing a past experience of
one’s own, or commenting on the interaction between persons. The intentions
here may be to convey one’s understanding or deal with a relational difficulty. A
highly integrated and/or well- trained therapist, dedicated to helping, will
produce congruent responses of a different kind and quality than will an
undifferentiated or egocentric therapist or a novice. Being therapeutically
congruent thus can be seen to involve a complex set of interpersonal skills as
well as the intra-personal skill of awareness.
We suggest that the communicative aspects of congruence involve the ability
to translate intra-personal experience into certain types of interpersonal
responses, such that these responses will be consistent with certain implicit
intentions. The deeper level intentions include, in addition to valuing and
understanding the other, the intentions to facilitate the others development, to
be accepting and non-critical of the other, to confirm the others experience, to
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focus on their strengths and, above all, to do the other no harm. These intentions,
and more, are what determine whether congruence is therapeutic. If one had a
genuine desire to harm, being congruent would not be therapeutic.
To acknowledge the tacit intentions underlying congruence does not mean
that congruence is not a spontaneous emergent experience in which one feels
whole. Feeling whole when being congruent results from the therapist’s intentions
and actions being integrated and forming a coherent whole. In a congruent state,
intentions are not in opposition and do not conflict with each other — neither
does one intention or experience obscure or suppress another, opposing one.
Being congruent — the internal awareness component.
Being aware of one’s own flow of internal experience and connecting with the
essence of one’s feeling, is a central component of congruence (Rogers, 1954).
The internal awareness component is the easiest aspect of the concept to endorse
as universally therapeutic. In our view it is always therapeutic for the therapist to
be aware of her own feelings and reactions as this awareness orients her, and
helps her be interpersonally clear and trustworthy. This inner awareness and
contact naturally flows from the experience of therapeutic presence. Therapeutic
presence is important in the practice of experiential therapies. As we will elaborate
later, therapeutic presence involves, among other qualities, being receptively open
and sensitive to one’s own moment by moment, changing experience; being fully
immersed in the moment; feeling a sense of expansion and spaciousness; and
being with and for the client. These and other aspects of presence will be discussed
more explicitly in the next section. Throughout this paper we assert that
therapeutic presence is thus essential to congruence.
With awareness there is less likelihood of a discrepancy between verbal and
non-verbal behavior and clients come to know that what they see is what they
get — they learn that there are no hidden agendas. This helps the client feel safe
and reduces interpersonal anxiety. This reduction in interpersonal anxiety allows
clients to tolerate more intra-personal anxiety and thereby to explore more deeply.
If the therapist is not aware of her feelings in interaction with her client she is
unlikely to be an effective helper because she will not have access to vital
information being generated in her therapy relationships — it would be like
operating in the dark. We know that we are most effective in helping others when
we are clear and aware of our own flow of internal experience, especially experience
that is generated out of our moment by moment interactions with our clients.
Types of incongruence.
Looking now at incongruence in the dimension of self-awareness, it is important
to note some of the different ways in which therapists can be incongruent.
Different types of incongruence for example occur:
(1) when therapists are aware of their experiencing but deliberately not
communicating. (Sometimes this is appropriate and sometimes not).
(2) When therapists are not clearly aware of what they are fundamentally
experiencing because of being anxiously unclear.
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(3) When therapists are completely unaware of their basic experience.
The first occurs when the therapist is clearly aware of feeling or thinking
something and is deliberately not saying this. Here the therapist can be
dissembling, trying to convey something he is not feeling. Then he is being phony
or fake, trying either to be nice or supportive or appear interested when he is not.
Another form of deliberate non-transparency is when he deliberately chooses
not to say something of what he feels or thinks, because it seems like it would be
distracting, or when what he is feeling seems to be more of his own ‘stuff’, or the
timing seems wrong.
The second type of incongruence is being anxiously unclear. Here a therapist’s
anxiety blocks his ability to have a flow of experience. When this occurs he is
usually unable to put this experience into words, especially at first. He may
become aware of being threatened but is unable to process this, and his awareness
becomes fused with a bodily sensed quality of tension and tingly-ness.
Consciousness becomes prickly, breathing is altered and shoulders and arms
tense up. He is then unable to listen clearly to his clients’ words or to be in touch
with his own flow of experience. The anxious body sense interferes both with
attending to his client and with putting his experience into words and may
dominate the therapist’s awareness.
In the above examples, the therapist is clearly aware of a feeling of threat.
However there are other states in which so much is happening or everything is
occurring so quickly, that the therapist is not aware. It is only later that he can
notice that he was threatened. Trainers can see that trainees often are not able to
be aware of feeling threatened when it is occurring. In this third type of
incongruence there is no awareness at the time of feeling threatened, nor of what
is occurring internally. At such times the first step for therapists in becoming
congruent, is to be able to recognize that they are feeling threatened. Yet other
forms of this type of lack of awareness in congruence can occur. For example, a
therapist can express something, in the belief that it is truly what he means, but
he is unaware that certain currently unrecognized needs are influencing his
expression. Another form of being incongruently unaware occurs when the
therapist expresses what we have called a secondary emotion rather than a
primary emotion (Greenberg et al 1993). Thus the therapist may experience and
express anger without, at that moment, being able to recognize his underlying
hurt. Here, the therapist expresses a secondary reaction to what was said and is
not in touch with essential or core self experience.
These three forms of in-congruence — conscious nondisclosure, anxiety that
prevents clear awareness and lack of awareness — all differ from one another.
Each type of incongruence involves a different process of becoming congruent,
even though it involves the common elements of being aware, and the ability to
articulate one’s own internal experience. One process involves attending to that
which is known, another focusing on the not yet articulate, and another entails
getting to what is core and acknowledging the previously unacknowledged.
Therapists generally are neither fully congruent nor incongruent, but are
congruent to differing degrees. Thus congruence itself is a process. Another
problem with the concept of congruence/incongruence is that the concept has
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a realist flavor to it, suggesting that the therapist feels something explicit and is
either aware or not aware of it. The situation however, is much more complex.
The second form of incongruence above, for example, involves the therapist being
unable to articulate in the moment what he or she is experiencing. Here the
therapist is unable to construct meaning from what is going on rather than
denying to awareness something already formed — it is not that he has a feeling,
for example of feeling ‘diminished’ sitting inside fully formed, and is unaware of
it. Rather he is unable, at the moment, to create a coherent description or narrative
of himself in the situation (Greenberg and van Balen, 1998). Thus he is unable to
articulate or configure his experience into a conscious description; he cannot
symbolize his tacit experience and is not able to make sense of his experience as,
perhaps, that of feeling diminished. The anxiety or threat is often a symptom of
being stuck and unable to carry-forward one’s experience in one’s body with
words. This, of course, is what Gendlin (1964) was pointing out in his concept of
experiencing. We (Greenberg and Pascual-Leone, 1995, 1997, 2001 Greenberg
and van Balen, 1999) have moved to the use of the word ‘coherence’ to replace
congruence in an attempt to capture the constructive element of being genuine
and to deal with the difficulty mentioned above with the concept of being real.
In being congruent, I form the moments of my experience, as much as I purely
discover them. This is a creative process, and when I’m being incongruent it is
this process that is blocked. In asserting this, I am not saying there is not
something there in me to which I can attend. There really is some bodily felt
experience there, but until I put words to it to create coherent meaning I am
stuck. This process of becoming congruent by coherence is more like the ‘seeing’
of a rabbit in a cloud formation than seeing a rabbit behind a tree. In seeing a
rabbit in the clouds I configure what I see from what is there. So too do I configure
myself in each moment from the elements of my experience. One form of
incongruence therefore is not being able to find the words, symbols or referents
to an experience, so as not to be able to make sense of and experience meaning.
Being congruent — an interpersonal skill
The case of transparency, or the communication component of congruence, is
much more complicated than the self-awareness component. It seems that being
facilitatively transparent involves many interpersonal skills. This component
involves not only the ability to express what I’m truly feeling but to express it in a
way that is facilitative. Transparency thus is a global concept for a complex set of
interpersonal skills embedded within a set of therapeutic attitudes. We argue
that the skills depend on three factors. First on therapist attitudes, second on
certain processes such as facilitativeness, discipline and comprehensiveness, and
third on the interpersonal stance of the therapist.
First, and probably most important, congruent responses as we have seen,
need always to be embedded within the therapist conditions and need to be
communicated non-judgmentally. In life, clearly one can be congruently
destructive. Thus one can congruently attack or even murder. We all know this is
not what we mean by the term congruence in therapy, because the term
congruence is really qualified, tacitly, by a number of other beliefs and views. We
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thus find it helpful to use the word ‘facilitative’ to qualify the word congruent.
When Person-Centered therapists say they are expressing themselves
genuinely, they mean they are being transparent in a disciplined manner. In order
to do this, therapists need first to be aware of their deepest level of experience —
and this may take time and reflection. Next, they need to be clear in their intention
for sharing their experience — that this is for the client or the relationship and
not for themselves. It is also always important for therapists to be sensitive to the
timing of disclosure — sensing whether clients are open to, or too vulnerable to
receive what one has to offer. Discipline thus involves not blurting out whatever
the therapist is feeling and making sure that what is expressed is a core or primary
feeling rather than a secondary. Another qualifying concept that helps to clarify
the transparency aspect of congruence is comprehensiveness — that congruence
needs to mean ‘saying all of it’. The therapist not only expresses the central or
focal aspect that is being felt, but also the meta-experience — what is felt about
what is being felt and communicated. Thus saying that one feels irritated or bored
is not saying all of it. Therapists need also to communicate their concern about
this potentially hurting their clients and express that they are communicating
this out of a wish to clarify and improve a connection, not destroy it. This is what
we mean by ‘saying all of it’.
Figure 1: Structural Analysis of Structural Behavior — (Adopted from Benjamin, 1999)
Emancipate
Separate
Affirm
Ward off
Active love
Recoil
Protect
Sulk
Control
Submit
SASB simplified cluster model of focus on other
Interpersonal stance — the third factor
The set of skills involved in facilitative congruent communication can be
explicated further, by looking at congruent interaction in terms of the
interactional stance as described by a circumplex grid of interpersonal interaction.
This grid is based on the two major dimensions of dominance/control and
closeness/affiliation. Lorna Benjamin (1996) has devised a coding system called
the Structural Analysis of Social Behavior (SASB) that can be used to describe
interpersonal interaction along these dimensions (see fig 1). Consistent with
interpersonal theory, this grid outlines a set of complementary responses that fit
SASB simplified cluster model of focus on self
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each other and that interactionally ‘pull’ for each other. Thus attack pulls for
defend or recoil, and affirm pulls for disclose or reveal. The skill of congruent
responding involves not reacting in a complementary fashion to a negative
interpersonal ‘pull’ of the client — like recoiling when attacked — but rather to
act in such a way as to ‘pull’ for a more therapeutically productive response from
one’s client, such as ‘clearly express’. This would be achieved, for example, by an
empathic understanding response to an attack.
The eight clusters of complementary positions are attack-recoil, blame-sulk,
control-submit, protect-trust, active love-reactive love, affirm-disclose,
emancipate-separate and ignore-wall off. Each cluster in turn is broken into more
specific behaviors. The cluster Affirm, for example, includes friendly listen, show
empathic understanding and confirm, and responses such as these pull
respectively for the complementary responses of openly disclose and reveal,
clearly express and enthusiastic show. The blame cluster includes punish, accuse/
blame, put down/act superior which respectively pull for, complementary
responses of whine/defend, justify/ appease, sulk/act put upon.
In addition to specifying complementary interactions, this system can be used
to understand the type of response that is the antithesis to a certain behavior,
and will act as an antidote to entering into an undesirable repetitive circular
interaction. The antithesis is the complement of what one would like the other to
do. Therapists who do not react to the negative pull of the client’s response —
but instead respond in a new way — will pull for a more constructive response
from their clients. Thus to overcome a blame-sulk cycle, a response from a
therapist to a client’s blame, of affirm rather than sulk, would pull for disclose
rather than continued blame. The affirming response has a high probability of
leading to a change in the interaction, as it will more likely pull for disclosure or
exploration from the client.
Facilitative congruent responses are most likely to fall in the high-affiliation,
low-dominance portion of the grid, or what Benjamin terms the friendly
differentiation quadrant. These responses include those in the affirming and
emancipate clusters mentioned above. Some of the specific behaviors included
in the emancipate cluster are entitled ‘encourage separate identity’, ‘you can do
it fine’’ and ‘carefully consider’. Responses by a therapist in the high dominance,
low affiliation portion of the grid — what is called the hostile differentiation
quadrant — are generally not facilitative. These include the clusters of attack
and ignore, with behaviors such as attack, angrily dismiss, abandon and neglect.
These behaviors pull for desperate protest, withdraw, detach and wall off,
respectively. The other two quadrants in this grid are friendly and hostile
enmeshed. They include clusters of responses such as protect, in the friendly
enmeshed quadrant, and blame, in the hostile enmeshed quadrant, with a cluster
of controlling responses at a mid-point between friendly and hostile.
The issue of whether hostile responses in therapy are ever therapeutically
congruent, remains to be explored. These types of hostile, dis-affiliative
interactions certainly generally would not promote trust, but at times however
for example if a client is testing a therapists limits to the extreme, a congruent
response of anger at violation in particular circumstances might be a trust
building response.
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Dealing with difficult feelings
The skills of congruent responding in dealing with difficult feelings, then, involve
the following: First, identifying one’s own internal feeling response — this is the
general skill of awareness. Next is the skill of responding. As we have explicated
elsewhere (Rice and Greenberg 1984), in order to best describe both client and
therapist responses it is useful to look at the context in which they occur. With
respect to congruence, the context is where on the interactional grid the person’s
action, to which one is responding, falls. For example, in the context of being
attacked the first step involves the therapist becoming aware of what he feels
when being attacked — which often is feeling threatened. This feeling then needs
to be symbolized in awareness. The next step in being facilitatively congruent is
being able to communicate feeling threatened in a non-blaming, non-escalatory
manner. Here according to the SASB model, therapist’s responses perceived by
clients as openly disclosing and revealing are likely to facilitate friendly listening,
while empathic understanding will facilitate clear expression from the client. It
is the interpersonal stance, particularly that of disclosing, that is crucial in making
transparency facilitative. For example, in the context of feeling angry, a therapist’s
facilitative congruent process involves first checking if her anger is her most core
feeling, if it is, then she needs to disclose this in a non-blaming, non-escalatory
fashion. If the therapist is feeling more hurt or diminished or threatened, rather
than angry, then congruence involves being aware of this and disclosing this in
an effective manner.
There are recognizable classes of difficult experiences that are often discussed
when addressing congruence in training or teaching counsellors, for example,
trainees often ask: What do you do if you feel angry? What do you say if you feel
bored? What do you say if you feel sexual? What do you say if the client doesn’t
leave, or if you feel rejecting? Situations such as these represent interpersonal
interactions, which can be well understood and described on the interpersonal
dimensions of affiliation and control or dominance. As we have seen, the
facilitativeness or destructiveness of expression is dependent on the quadrant in
which the expression falls. Anger expressed as attack from the hostile dominant
quadrant, or feeling sexual expressed as love in the close quadrant without
sensitivity to power and boundary violation issues, will not be facilitative.
Similarly, expressions of boredom or expressions of rejection (e.g. of somebody’s
dependence) that occupy an interactional position of being distant or ignoring,
will not be facilitative. These responses respectively will pull for recoil, erotic love
or walling off. The issue becomes one of how does a therapist helpfully interact
when feeling one of these feelings or when this type of issue arises in a relationship
in which the therapist is trying to be facilitative?
As we have already said, if the therapist responds from an affirming stance
this is likely to be facilitative. This is the baseline response in Person Centered
and other supportive therapies. But what to do when the therapist is not feeling
affirming but is feeling angry, critical and rejecting and can’t get past this feeling,
to something more core? Each interactional response, in order to be faciltatively
congruent, involves first connecting with the fundamental attitudes or intentions
of trying to be helpful, understanding, valuing, respecting and non-intrusive or
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non-dominant. This will lead to these feeling being expressed as disclosures. If
the interpersonal stance of disclosing is adopted, rather than the complementary
stances of attack, expressing erotic desire, or rejection, then this congruent
response is more likely to be facilitative. It is not the content of the disclosure
that is the central issue in being facilitative, rather it is the interpersonal stance of
disclosure in a facilitative way that is important. What is congruent is the feeling
of wanting to disclose in the service of facilitating, and the action of disclosing.
The different ways of being facilitatively congruent in dealing with different
classes of difficult feeling are, then, to some degree specifiable — they all involve
adopting a position of disclosing. Thus expressing a feeling that could be perceived
of as negative in a stance that is disclosing, rather than expressing it in the stance
that usually accompanies that feeling, will help make it facilitative. Disclosure
implicitly or explicitly, involves willingness to, or an interest in, exploring with
the other what one is disclosing. For example, when attacked or feeling angry, a
therapist does not attack the other but rather discloses that he is feeling angry. He
does not use blaming, ‘you’ language. Rather he takes responsibility for his feelings
and uses ‘I’ language that helps disclose what he is feeling. Above all he does not
go into a one up, escalatory, position in this communication but rather openly
discloses feelings of fear, anger or hurt. When the problem is one of the therapist
experiencing non-affiliative, rejecting feelings or loss of interest in the client’s
experience, the interactional skill involves being able to disclose this in the context
of communicating congruently that the therapist does not wish to feel this. Or,
the therapist discloses these feelings as a problem getting in the way and that
she is trying to repair the distance so that she will be able to feel more
understanding and closer. The key is communicating what could be perceived
as negative feelings in a congruently facilitative way, generally occupying an
interactional position of disclosure in the non-dominant affiliative quadrant.
For example a very fragile and explosive client once told me in an intense
encounter that she feared me and hated me because I was so phony and that I
acted so presumptuously in assuming that I understood what she felt. She said
she saw me as a leach trying to suck her emotional life out of her and that, although
I professed good intentions, I was really out to destroy her. Under the mounting,
relentless attack I told her I felt afraid of her anger, and tears came to my eyes as
I told her how I hurt. This was disclosed without blame or recrimination or without
an explicit power or control related intention to get her to stop. Just a disclosure
of what it felt like inside for me in that moment. This disclosure did have her stop
and drew from her some of her concern for me.
Can genuineness be specified?
Some readers may feel that specifying what it is to be genuine is a contradiction
in terms, because if congruence involves internal awareness and revealing it,
then trying to specify what the therapist should do, defeats the purpose of
revealing what is real. If genuineness means only spontaneity, it cannot be viewed
as a skill. Being genuine involves first and foremost feeling whatever one is
experiencing. Therefore anything employed as a skill has to be felt or used
genuinely. Genuineness, as the experience of a unique agent, cannot be specified
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beforehand. It is what it is. But what one does with it, provided it is done genuinely,
can be seen as a skill.
The discussion of whether the Rogerian attitudes can be translated into
behavioral principles and skills has a long and extensive history (Barrett -Lennard,
1999). Fundamentally, the conditions, including congruence, are attitudes not
behaviors, but if the appropriate attitudes are there, they will translate into
behaviors that have noticeable characteristics. We are suggesting that laying out
some of the principles that govern facilitative congruent communication will
help make congruence more specifiable. The SASB grid, or some such system of
describing interpersonal behavior, will help greatly to do so. The principles being
specified here for therapeutic congruent communication are that the therapist
responses be embedded in helping attitudes and be affirming or disclosing
responses, and that it is the interpersonal stance, not the content of the
transparent response, that is important in making it therapeutic.
It is significant to recognize that this is not a proposal that a therapist’s genuine
responses be determined by some pre-existing system, or that therapeutic
responses be deliberate or strategic position taking. Rather, congruent responses
have to be a genuine reflection of what the therapist feels and thinks. People are
extremely perceptive and sensitive to the genuineness of any response and so it
is only when the response genuinely fits the correct stance and has facilitative
intentions, that we will have a congruent response that is facilitative.
As in learning any complex performance, like playing a piano concerto, or
playing soccer, having both the requisite skill and developing a higher level of
integration is necessary. It is the tacit synthesis of skills and other elements that
produces masterful performances. The dilemma in training therapists is that
some people naturally seem to have the ability to be facilitatively congruent
without specifying what this involves, but some don’t. I have trained many students
who do not perform well initially in how they are genuine or congruent. It often
can be quite confusing for them. To people outside of a humanistic tradition the
prescription to be genuine often seems incomprehensible. This is because the
concept has not been fully explicated. Some grasp it intuitively but others don’t. If
we are to train people to be better therapists and not just select those with natural
abilities we need to train them in both the attitudes and skills of congruence.
While the practice of specific skills can be helpful to the development of
therapeutic abilities, letting go of these skills and any planned intent on how to
be congruent, when entering the therapy session, is extremely important and
the basis of therapeutic presence. This letting go of preconceptions and skills is a
part of a preparation that occurs with therapeutic presence, as can be seen in the
model of therapeutic presence in the next section. The learning of skills becomes
integrated on a tacit level and the appropriate response arises out of the in the
moment interaction of person, situation and experiencing. Being empty, open,
and receptive to this in the moment, and experiencing and responding from the
therapists’ authentic center involves trust, in the process, in the therapist’s own
emerging experience, and in the client’s experience, and is the foundation of
therapeutic presence as we will see below.
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THERAPEUTIC PRESENCE
Presence involves being fully in the moment and directly encountering all aspects
of experience with one’s whole being on a multitude of levels — including
physical, emotional, mental and visceral — from a grounded and centered
position within oneself. Presence is a quality that can be experienced in many
life situations such as art, watching a sunset, teaching, or in quiet meditation
with one’s self. This discussion and the subsequent research is focused on the
therapist’s presence in the psychotherapeutic encounter, which we term
therapeutic presence. The experience of presence in art or other life situations
and therapeutic presence share similar qualities. Therapeutic presence however,
is distinguished by focusing on the therapist’s presence in an encounter, intended
as healing, in which the therapist intention is to be with and for the other. Even
though the focus here is on therapeutic presence, we will use the terms presence
and therapeutic presence interchangeably as has been done in the literature.
The concept of congruence, then, needs to be qualified in order for its
therapeutic nature to be understood. We propose that in addition to the
importance of the above-mentioned intentions, beliefs and skills, the therapist
needs to be fully present in the therapeutic encounter in order for congruence to
be therapeutic. Therapists cannot bring extraneous personal baggage, needs, or
even agendas for therapy into the encounter. Being able to be fully present to the
other is a highly developed skill that requires a letting go of preconceptions and
full attention in the moment. In order to be fully present, the therapist needs to
have developed a level of psychological maturity or level of functioning that is
rather high, or at least be able to attain this while in session.
A number of humanistic theorists suggest that therapist presence is a
necessary condition for creating a positive and supportive therapeutic
environment. It also has been seen as a key means to help clients to become
more present with their own experience and hence move in a direction of inner
growth and understanding (Buber, 1958; Bugental, 1983, 1987; Hycner, 1993;
Hycner and Jacobs, 1995; Schneider and May, 1995).
Rogers (1980) in his later writings claimed presence as important:
When I am at my best, as a group facilitator or as a therapist, I discover another
characteristic. I find that when I am closest to my inner, intuitive self, when I am
somehow in touch with the unknown in me, when perhaps I am in a slightly
altered state of consciousness, then whatever I do seems to be full of healing.
Then, simply my presence is releasing and helpful to the other. There is nothing
I can do to force this experience, but when I can relax and be close to the
transcendental core of me, then I may behave in strange and impulsive ways in
the relationship, ways in which I cannot justify rationally, which have nothing to
do with my thought processes. But these strange behaviors turn out to be right,
in some odd way: it seems that my inner spirit has reached out and touched the
inner spirit of the other. Our relationship transcends itself and becomes a part of
something larger. Profound growth and healing and energy are present (p.129).
May (1958) uses Rogers’ general comments on the nature of what it means to be
a therapist to show what he means by presence:
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I let myself go into the immediacy of the relationship where it is my total
organism which takes over and is sensitive to the relationship, not simply my
consciousness. I am not consciously responding in a planful or analytic way,
but simply in an unreflective way to the other individual, my reaction being
based (but not consciously) on my total organismic sensitivity to this other
person. I live the relationship on this basis (p. 82)
Few theoretical writings exist on therapist presence and most of what is written
is qualified by the ineffability of this important quality.
Hycner and Jacobs (1995) describe presence as a turning of the whole self to
the other — not just attending to the other but turning away from preoccupation
with self and offering one’s whole being to the other.
This involves viewing the
other in his/her uniqueness and acceptance that this is a different and unique
person, where ‘no other concern is paramount.’
Bugental (1987) writes that presence is ‘A name for the quality of being in a
situation or relationship in which one intends, at a deep level, to participate as
fully as she is able.
Presence is expressed through mobilization of one’s sensitivity
— both inner (to the subjective) and outer (to the situation and the other person(s)
in it) — and through, bringing into action one’s capacity for response.’
And that
‘full presence means being truly accessible and appropriately expressive.’ (p.222)
Schneider and May (1995) posit that ‘presence holds and illuminates that
which is palpably (immediately, kinesthetically, affectively, and profoundly)
relevant between therapists and clients and within clients. It is the ground and
eventual goal of experiential work’ (p. 174).
The goal of presence, in their view, is
to illuminate clients’ experiential world, provide a safe container for immersion
to occur, and to deepen client’s ability to constructively use her discoveries.
Therapeutic presence can be viewed as an essential therapeutic stance to open
the way for other therapist stances, such as Rogers’ therapist-offered conditions of
congruence, empathy, and positive regard, to be used and lived as part of the therapy
process.
A greater specification of therapeutic presence then seems important. In
order to further understand and describe therapeutic presence, a number of
therapists were therefore interviewed on their experience of presence in therapy.
Figure 2: Therapeutic Presence
Preparing the ground
Process of presence
(a) Receptivity
Experiencing presence
(a) Immerson
(a) Arriving and clearing a
space immediately before
the session
(b) Expansion
(b) Inwardly acting
(b) Practicing presence in life
(c) Grounding
(c) Extending and contact
(d) Being with and for the client
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Understanding therapeutic presence
The authors (Geller, 2000; Geller and Greenberg, 2000) conducted a qualitative
study whereby seven experienced therapists from four different theoretical
orientations, who were familiar with, and knowledgeable about, the qualities of
therapeutic presence, were interviewed on their experience of presence in therapy.
A form of qualitative analysis combining condensation and categorization of
meaning was used to extract meaning units from the interviews (Kvale, 1996)
The analysis resulted in the model shown in Fig. 2.
Three overarching
categories of therapeutic presence were formed from the respondents’ reports.
One category was labeled preparing the ground for presence, referring to the pre
session and general life preparation for therapeutic presence.
Another category
described the process of presence, the processes or activities the person is engaged
in when being therapeutically present, or what the therapist does when in
presence. The third category reflected the actual in-session experience of presence.
Expanded description of presence
Preparation
Therapists described the importance of preparing the ground for therapeutic
presence to emerge, both prior to the session and through practice in their daily
life.
The therapist arrives at the session holding the intention to be fully there
with the client and to let go of his own and daily concerns. The therapist brackets
or suspends his own beliefs, assumptions, needs and concerns in order to fully
attend to what is occurring in the moment and to respond to the other based on
the experience of the moment.
The therapist clears a space inside where he can
receive whatever experience emerges in the client, in the self, or in the relationship
between the two with a sense of openness, acceptance and non-judgement.
Therapists also discussed a sense of commitment in their daily lives to the
practice of presence. Some of the therapists interviewed referred to their
meditation practice as an essential aid in being in the moment.
Ongoing care for self needs, relationships and personal growth were also viewed as support to the
practice of presence in session with the client.
Being present in one’s own life
and in personal relationships appear to be a part of the growth and development
essential for developing presence in session.
The process
Preparation appears to be an essential part of moving into presence, however,
once in session the therapist responds to whatever presents itself in the moment.
This involves a shifting awareness of the many different elements that go into a
moment of encounter with the client, including the professional and personal
being of the therapist, the being of the client, and the relationship between them.
The interaction of all these aspects in a given moment guides the therapist in
his/her understanding and response.
There is a quality of movement in the process of presence that demands the
therapist be fully immersed in each moment as it arrives. This movement involves
shifting from taking in the fullness of the client’s experience in one moment
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(receptivity), to being in contact with how that experience resonates in the
therapist’s own body (inwardly attending), to expressing that inner resonance or
directly connecting with the client (extending and contact).
Put another way, the
therapist is touched by the essence of the other, is in contact with her own
experience of how she is touched by the other, and offers this inner experience
in a way that touches the other’s essence. The therapist’s movement of attention
and contact is guided by what is most poignant in the moment.
The experience
The experience of presence involves a sense of total absorption, inner expansion,
grounding in one’s self, and being with and for the client. Therapeutic presence
involves feeling intimately engaged in the experience of each moment with the
client, with an expanded sense of awareness of the subtleties and depth of the
experience of each moment.
The therapist experiences a melding with the client
and a loss of spatial boundaries, while maintaining a sense of center and grounding
within himself in that shared space.
A sense of love and respect is felt towards the
other as the therapist meets the client in way that is with, and for, the client’s healing.
Therapeutic presence thus involves having a heightened awareness and
sensitivity to the many dimensions of experience on a moment to moment basis.
There is an absence of awareness of time, a lack of a sense of past or future.
With
therapeutic presence, the therapist is highly absorbed and engaged in the
encounter with this other human being and with the person’s suffering.
The
therapist does not turn away from the suffering of the other by labeling,
categorizing, or objectifying. Nor is the therapist engaged in focusing on her own
burdens or sufferings or worrying about how she should act or intervene.
Rather
the therapist meets the other’s suffering and pain with care, openness, awareness,
and acceptance. The therapist engages with the other as a human being and
allows herself to get as close as possible to the client’s experience while
maintaining a sense of center and grounding within her own existence.
With
presence, the therapist experiences a deep sense of trust within self, with the
process, and with the experience of the client. The therapist trusts that whatever
emerges is important and necessary for healing to occur.
This openness to and
allowing of experience is accompanied by an energized and flowing experience
in the body and in the interaction between the therapist and client.
In summary, therapeutic presence involves therapists being open and
sensitive to their own and their clients’ moment by moment, changing, awareness
and experience. This is a process of being receptive, being fully there with oneself,
and extending and making genuine contact with the client.
The experience is
one in which the therapist feels fully immersed in the moment while feeling a
sense of expansion and spaciousness, and feeling grounded and centered. It
involves a being with the client rather than a doing to the client. It is a state of
being open to all aspects of being with the client and receiving the client’s
experience in a gentle, non-judgmental and compassionate way, rather than
observing and looking at or even into the client.
This inner receptive state of the
therapist is the ultimate tool in understanding the client. Therapeutic presence
involves meeting the other in the moment where the person is, rather than trying
to change her or him in some way.
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Presence involves an absence of judgement and instead allows for a deeper
understanding and acceptance of the client’s world. This promotes moments of
genuine meeting and this in turn invites clients to safely express and explore
their conflicts and issues.
Therapeutic presence is therefore an essential stance
in humanistic therapies, where the therapist provides a safe and supportive
container for the client’s natural growth tendency to emerge.
THERAPEUTIC PRESENCE AND CONGRUENCE
Despite presence having been posited by some as the groundwork for therapy,
the relationship between presence and congruence has not been discussed very
extensively and little empirical literature on therapeutic presence has been
generated to date. Some authors have written about presence in a way that
equates presence with congruence (Kempler, 1970; Webster, 1998).
Based on this
study it is our view that the concept of congruence does not incorporate all the
subtle aspects of presence, yet therapeutic presence includes therapist authenticity
in feeling and expression. Therapeutic presence thus prepares the ground for
congruence, is a precondition of congruence, and also goes beyond it.
Beyond internal awareness and expression
Congruence as we defined it involves awareness and transparency. Therapeutic
presence as determined from this investigation involves the process of receptivity,
inwardly attending and extending and contact, and the experience of, immersion,
expansion, grounding and being with and for the client.
It appears that the process
of inwardly attending and extending and contact, to some degree, parallel
awareness and transparency.
What therapeutic presence appears to add to
congruence is first the preliminary necessity of receptively being empty and open
to receive the totality of the client’s and one’s own experience. Receptivity comes
prior to Inwardly Attending to one’s experience of being with the other (awareness)
and Extending and sharing one’s genuine experience (transparency).
Therapeutic
presence in addition adds to congruence a specification that the therapists be
fully Immersed in the moment with the client, experience a sense of Expansion
while maintaining a Grounding in themselves. Further, although Being With and
For the Client is implied by congruence it is not explicitly in the definition.
The
awareness and transparency components of congruence therefore do not capture
the state of receptivity and intimacy with the moment involved in presence, nor
do they capture the experience of intense focus, and the combination of
expansiveness and grounding in the self.
In our view congruence therefore is an aspect of, and flows from, therapeutic
presence, but is not fully encompassing of the total experience of presence.
However, the more presence there is for the therapist, the more she will be
congruent in experience and responses.
Receptive and open: A prerequisite
Therapeutic presence precedes congruence in that the therapist must first be
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present to be receptive to, and make contact with, the fullness of the client’s and
her own immediate experience in order to understand what is being experienced
and how to respond.
The experience that is received, and experienced, resonates
in the therapist’s body and is experienced as a bodily sense in the form of feelings,
words, or images.
Being congruent at this point involves a moment of attending
inwardly to that which is being presently experienced. As we discussed, a key
aspect of congruence is being open to, and aware of, one’s ongoing flow of inner
experiencing. Here the therapist uses her bodily sense as a navigational tool in
responding to the client.
If the therapist was not present and hence not fully
open and involved, she would not be accessing the rich source of experience to
which to attend that allows her to make a split second choice as to whether, or
how, to respond from this experience.
Immersion, expansion, and grounding: going beyond congruence
In order to be acutely aware within his experience and to genuinely share his
experience with the client, the therapist needs to be immersed in the experience
of the moment with the client. Congruence is thus experienced and held in the
larger space of presence. With therapeutic presence the therapist experiences a
sense of expansion and openness.
There is a sense of deep trust and a sense of
spaciousness containing the intensity of what is being felt and expressed.
Therapeutic presence also adds to congruence a sense of grounding which
includes the therapist trusting his own felt and expressed experience. For example,
even though the therapist may be feeling intense shame, there is a calm and
trust with what is being experienced and expressed.
With congruence (and
therapeutic presence) there is a match between the intensity that the therapist
feels and the behavior that is shown. With therapeutic presence, the therapist
feels that intensity while feeling a sense of grounding in self. He feels trust in his
experience and in the process itself.
Being with and for the client: facilitative congruence and therapeutic
presence
A key aspect of the experience of therapeutic presence also involves the intention
of being with and for the client in a healing encounter. Holding the intent to not
harm the other, but instead being with the other in a way that is helpful is key in
therapeutic presence. This helping motivation is also central to being congruent
in a way that is facilitative, as mentioned previously in this paper.
If the therapist
is present with his own experience, and with the client, then the decision to share
his genuine experiencing is going to be guided by this intention.
The therapist
needs to be present with, and aware of, his own experience and be able to assess
whether it is his own issues that are emerging — and need to be put aside
temporarily — or if what is emerging could be of benefit to the client’s healing
process.
The therapist thus needs to be open and aware of his own internal
experience and genuinely sharing, while being in contact with the intention of
being there with, and for, the client.
This aspect of therapeutic presence also allows the therapist to be aware and
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sensitive to his experience (and of course the client’s experience) so that he can
be congruent in expression in a way that is sensitive to timing. What is being felt
does not just leak out in a way that is impulsive or driven by the need to release
— hence the need for discipline.
This quality also takes a level of development
and maturity and even skill in being present with what is true in each moment. It
could mean being able to withstand some discomfort (for example in the case of
shame) and to show that potentially vulnerable feeling to the client in a way that
does not ask anything more than for the client to also be present.
What makes
the therapist therapeutically present is his willingness to be with that experience
of shame and to express it to the client while holding the intention of helping the
client or bettering the therapeutic relationship.
CONCLUSION
We have argued that for congruence to be therapeutic, the concept requires
further specification. We have suggested that first, congruence needs to be seen
as being embedded within a network of intentions and attitudes, among which
the intention to do no harm is primary.
Second we have suggested that the skill
of communicating congruently in a facilitative and disciplined manner appears
to be characterized by the adoption of a non-dominant, affiliative, stance.
Congruent communication of this type conveys a therapeutic intent to either
disclose the therapist’s internal experience, or to affirm the client’s experience
and further, these pull for listening or disclosure from the client.
Finally we have
suggested that therapeutic presence is a necessary pre-condition of congruence
and at the same time is a larger experience that contains congruence as an aspect.
More particularly, it allows the type of receptivity and intimacy with the moment
that will promote both a true meeting of client and therapist, and the healing
that occurs through this type of meeting.
The self of the therapist is brought to the encounter with the client with a
willingness to experience all that the encounter entails. She is receptive and
sensitive to the fullness of the client’s experience. This direct and immediate
encounter with the depth of the client’s experience and with a deep trust that
what is emerging is important and helpful in the process, is the very essence of
therapeutic presence. It is the sensitivity to the moment and grounding in oneself
that allows the therapist to know how to be with the other in the therapeutic
encounter — when to be transparent with experience or when to purely resonate
with the client’s pain.
Therapeutic presence is an essential precondition for congruence, particularly
to allow the type of receptivity and intimacy with the moment that will promote
a true meeting of client and therapist and the healing that occurs through this
type of meeting. Therapeutic presence is also a larger experience that contains
congruence and allows it to be more completely facilitative and genuine.
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The Difference Between Consistency and Congruency
You believe there a difference between congruency and consistency? A lot of people will answer, no. actually, the difference is huge both in execution and result.
Consistency implies similar patterns of behavior. The behavior, and thus the outcome, may be right or wrong, good or bad, helpful or destructive; with consistent behavior there is no requirement for introspection or consideration.
Congruence on the other hand requires personal reflection and careful} deliberation. Derived from the Latin word “congruere”, which means ‘to meet’ or ‘to agree’, congruence is the point at which your principles and beliefs align with your thoughts and actions.
Our work environments are great examples of consistent, yet not necessarily congruent, behavior. We do what we are told and we continue to do the same things over and again without thinking about why. We put ourselves basically on automatic pilot. However, to be truly fulfilled, we should come from a place of congruency; knowing we are being true to ourselves.
To be congruent, who you are, what you say, and the things you do are harmonious and unified.
On a personal level, congruency exists when your true desires, thoughts, feelings, and behavior are aligned with your core values. Only then can you move toward balance in your life and experience more joy, fulfillment, and inner peace. Congruence is about validating the deeper truth within you.
When you find your heart and mind pulled in diverse directions, or when your deeds belie your thoughts, your physical body starts to experience the effects of incongruence. Stress, inner conflict and disease thrive when congruence is threatened.
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Become Mindful Of Your Intentions.
Your life’s energy is guided by your intentions, which determines the reality you experience. When you have conflicting intentions, you experience conflicting thoughts; the result is stress and anxiety.
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Every desire to change begins with the intention to do so. Speaking your intent is very different than just wishing or longing something. Observe the profound difference between, “I wish I could change this”, and “I intend to change this.”
Pay Attention To Your Most Dominant Thoughts.
The structure of your thoughts is revealed through your internal communication. You can radically change the quality of your life when you develop inner voices that serve, support, and are congruent with your real intentions. To determine whether your inner thoughts are supporting you or limiting you, ask yourself: “Would I say the same words to a friend, family member or a colleague who needs my support?” If the answer is no, then stop saying them to yourself.
Get In Touch With Your Body
The truth is often found in how you feel physically.Those knots and butterflies in your stomach, your feelings of anxiety or unease, your gut feelings; these are all signs of incongruence. When you are unsure of the best path, pay attention to how you feel and what your gut is telling you to do. The answers you find might surprise you and can be be insightful, truthful, and liberating.
To start yourself on the road to congruence today, begin by asking yourself the following life coaching questions:
In what areas of my life do I feel not fully congruent?
Where do I experience stress or inner conflict?
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What values am I violating?
What would I like to have more of in my life?
What do I need to let go of to get them?
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You believe there a difference between congruency and consistency? A lot of people will answer, no. actually, the difference is huge both in execution and result.
Consistency implies similar patterns of behavior. The behavior, and thus the outcome, may be right or wrong, good or bad, helpful or destructive; with consistent behavior there is no requirement for introspection or consideration.
Congruence on the other hand requires personal reflection and careful} deliberation. Derived from the Latin word “congruere”, which means ‘to meet’ or ‘to agree’, congruence is the point at which your principles and beliefs align with your thoughts and actions.
Our work environments are great examples of consistent, yet not necessarily congruent, behavior. We do what we are told and we continue to do the same things over and again without thinking about why. We put ourselves basically on automatic pilot. However, to be truly fulfilled, we should come from a place of congruency; knowing we are being true to ourselves.
To be congruent, who you are, what you say, and the things you do are harmonious and unified.
On a personal level, congruency exists when your true desires, thoughts, feelings, and behavior are aligned with your core values. Only then can you move toward balance in your life and experience more joy, fulfillment, and inner peace. Congruence is about validating the deeper truth within you.
When you find your heart and mind pulled in diverse directions, or when your deeds belie your thoughts, your physical body starts to experience the effects of incongruence. Stress, inner conflict and disease thrive when congruence is threatened.
To reach your goals, to move your life in a positive direction, and to experience personal fulfillment, your thoughts, feelings, values, and actions should be aligned. Your thoughts are extremely potent as they hold the key to achieving success. If you let inconsistency enter your mind, your thoughts lose their collective power leaving you disquieted, conflicted, and anxious. Clearly congruence is essential. Achieving it starts with a sincere personal reflection. Consider the following strategies for an acclaimed life strategy coach
Become Mindful Of Your Intentions.
Your life’s energy is guided by your intentions, which determines the reality you experience. When you have conflicting intentions, you experience conflicting thoughts; the result is stress and anxiety.
Make A Conscious Intention To Change.
Every desire to change begins with the intention to do so. Speaking your intent is very different than just wishing or longing something. Observe the profound difference between, “I wish I could change this”, and “I intend to change this.”
Pay Attention To Your Most Dominant Thoughts.
The structure of your thoughts is revealed through your internal communication. You can radically change the quality of your life when you develop inner voices that serve, support, and are congruent with your real intentions. To determine whether your inner thoughts are supporting you or limiting you, ask yourself: “Would I say the same words to a friend, family member or a colleague who needs my support?” If the answer is no, then stop saying them to yourself.
Get In Touch With Your Body
The truth is often found in how you feel physically.Those knots and butterflies in your stomach, your feelings of anxiety or unease, your gut feelings; these are all signs of incongruence. When you are unsure of the best path, pay attention to how you feel and what your gut is telling you to do. The answers you find might surprise you and can be be insightful, truthful, and liberating.
To start yourself on the road to congruence today, begin by asking yourself the following life coaching questions:
In what areas of my life do I feel not fully congruent?
Where do I experience stress or inner conflict?
When am I not being true to myself?
What is missing in my life?
What values am I violating?
What would I like to have more of in my life?
What do I need to let go of to get them?
Your answers will set your self-discovery in the right direction. It’s up to you to make the choice between consistency and congruence. When you are ready to choose congruence, the disparate pieces of your life will come together in harmony, creating the perfect foundation for you to develop and flourish.
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terça-feira, 2 de novembro de 2010
Transpersonal Psychotherapy
Graduate Certificate
Eva Pierrakos
The Pathwork of Self-Transformation
Gary Caganoff
April, 2004.
At this stage of my personal growth, feeling my emotions and their stages of intensity, my
loneliness seems to have re-emerged, or spiralled into position ready to be dealt with again. The
Guide, channelled through Pierrakos, says that,
Through the gateway of feeling your loneliness lies your capacity to have fulfilment,
love and companionship. (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxvi)
In the depths of my loneliness I do not feel fulfilled or loved, nor do I have any type of
companionship with anybody or anything, even with G-d. Within my loneliness sits immense
sadness, anger, and fear. Fear of being left out, fear of failing, fear of being lonely for the rest
of my life. Anger at myself, for being so miserable and selfish. Sadness that everything seems
so hopeless. This is not how I envisaged this part of my life. Sometimes, in this frame of mind,
it is the negativities that take me over. The feelings of fulfilment, love and companionship are
smothered by the negativities that influence me. Without mature love I am never truly fulfilled
and am never truly in companionship with anything except my fear.
Through the gateway of feeling your fear lies your security and safety.
(Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxvi)
Security and safety comes from trust – trusting yourself to be able to love maturely. But how
do we do this? Why is it so hard to rid ourselves of all these things that hold us down and stop
us from truly loving? Stopping us from being who we really are? And anyway, who are we
really? In spiritual work we are often told that we are ‘love and light’, but we are seldom told, if
at all, that we are also hatred and darkness. Are we not the sum of our totality? This means that
we have to take into account ALL of ourselves, including our negativities. Most psychologies
and New Age spiritual practices inadvertently discourage us, ‘from taking full responsibility
for our negativities’ (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxv). Also in these same approaches, we are
allowed to blame someone else for our negativities; our parents, past lives, oppressive societal
norms (ibid, pxv). Very rarely, even in the great religions, do we own our negative aspects but
give them over to G-d, Christ, the Church, or our guru.
So, I again feel this loneliness and fear. Now, how do I enter the gateway of these emotions to
discover the treasures that lie beyond?
All my childhood I longed to travel and have adventures. It was a passionate longing that truly
inspired me to go and explore the wild world. However, there was also a longing to become
more worldly, more intelligent, more attractive, and less dumb than what I believed I was. I
wanted to impress people. The need to improve myself was on one level egoic, but on another
level an expression of a much deeper longing. It was an intuitive feeling that, ‘another, more
fulfilling state of consciousness and a larger capacity to experience life must exist’ (ibid, p2). I
went in search of this ‘state’ like young Pacifal in search of the legendary Knights of the
Round Table. I literally climbed great mountains of ice and traversed the mightiest, longest
rivers on the planet searching for wisdom. However, on these journeys I was trying to make
myself the best person I could possibly be, simply to impress. All those journeys through the
landscapes of my own ego and my own soul brought me face to face with the confusion of my
existence. I stared my inadequacies in the face and thus began my search for inner peace.
However, the dualistic nature of the longing for peace caused confusion and contradiction. And
it still does. How can I find peace in myself if I have this longing to find perfection? The desire
for perfection and the act of searching for it contradicts the fact that peace comes from letting go
of pre-conceived notions and accepting life as it is – to become still in the reality of what ‘is’
instead of chasing the illusion I desire so much.
Pierrakos’ Pathway Lectures stress the importance of recognising and owning your own
negativities. This parallels Jung’s insistence of exposing the shadow and integrating it with the
ego in order for the soul to become conscious. On my journeys I tried to run away from my
negativities, however I only succeeded in running into them. I looked at them, but only really
scratched the surface. I admit now, my work is still split between trying to impress, and finding
inner peace. It’s a struggling confusion between head and heart.
Like shadow work, overcoming egoic negative behaviours can be achieved simply by
becoming aware of them and just watching. Reacting to painful situations with rage and
complaining is the result of avoiding that pain and the subsequent feelings around it. If we can
overcome the fear that this pain will annihilate me, or the feeling that this pain will never end,
and ‘just let the pain be… without playing games’ (ibid, p4), to just watch it, then it will,
…release powerful creative energies to increasingly work for you in your life and open
the channels to your spiritual self. Feeling the pain will also yield a deeper, fuller, and
wiser understanding of the connections between cause and effect.
For instance, you will be able to see how this pain was created. The drama of the life situation
is the cause of the deeper issue. For example, I am longing to touch and be touched by the
women I adore, however, because I fear rejection my feeling of deep love for her switches
from the heart to the head. I am then denied contact because she can feel that I am not coming
from the heart, so I fall into a depression of immeasurable sadness. I feel the fear of loneliness
and if I fight it then it turns into frustration and eventually anger. This is the effect. The cause
comes from the fact, according to the Pathway Lectures, that my desire is false – that I am not
taking responsibility for my present state. The more realistic state of my longing is the knowing
that the fulfilment I desire lies within me (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, p3).
The fact that I am unable to hold onto my sense of fulfilment shows how distant I am from my
true self – such a distance that not even my best friend will reach out and take my hand even in
the most beautiful moments. In this situation my frustration, hence the grief beneath it, is
enormous. It seems my life so far has had more physical isolation than contact. I remember in
my mid 20’s a time where I hadn’t touched anyone for at least 18 months. Nothing even as
small as a friendly hug could I give or receive. At the same time I yearned to be touched, held,
The less contact (that) is cultivated, the more acute the longing for contact becomes.
I am slowly learning that the fulfilment I desire lies within me. The pain of past rejection is so
deeply etched in me that it will take some time to heal. I have to take more responsibility for my
present state and constantly keep watch. The answers lie in the instant the confusion hits – the
moment my heart and head are overpowered by the confusion of not knowing who I really am.
Am I this, or am I that? I know my Petit Mal is triggered by the confusion between my head
and heart. Beneath this confusion there is a fear that literally shocks me full of electricity.
Science says this shock originates in the brain, however I feel it originates in my emotional and/
or spiritual heart. The shock is triggered by this deep-set fear. A sandplay I did at The Crucible
a year or so ago, where I put in symbols representing my mother, father, and another women,
also pointed to the fact that this energy of anger comes from my confusion between not being
able to get to either women because my father is in the way. In situations where I am deeply
angry I feel so much like my father. I seem to become him for that particular time of rage. It is
the rage of a little boy wanting to be loved. My father’s father was also distant and emotionally
unavailable to his children too.
To watch this state further will help me understand it more. Insight will come, says the Guide,
‘when you stop the inner fighting and resisting’ (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, p4). It is obvious I
haven’t nearly stopped the fighting and resisting, however, Pierrakos encourages me to just
watch. It will come closer to consciousness if I simply watch it, without attachment. The bliss I
am seeking will come only when I have gone through whatever it is inside of me that prevents
me from experiencing it, so the Guide tells me (ibid, p5). Perhaps the fear is the fear of
rejection, which ultimately is the fear of abandonment – the fear of not being loved by anyone,
The Guide, channelled through Pierrakos, says that there are three levels of human nature. The
inner Higher Self, the central Lower Self, and the outer Mask Self, or the Idealized Self Image.
The latter is the image that we create when we are children in order to attract the love we desire.
To do so we desperately hide our darker, naughtier aspects of ourselves and create a mask to
cover it all (ibid, 22). Hence, it reseeds into the subconscious. In the outer world we proudly
wear our mask of ‘goodness and light’. However, these standards set by the Idealized Self are
impossible to live up to but you never give up trying to uphold them. And in so doing ‘…you
cultivate within yourself an inner tyranny of the worst order’. By not fulfilling the dictates of
this Image you castigate yourself, make yourself feel like a complete failure. The negativity then
rears its ugly head. Because you have not yet owned your negative aspects, your shadows, then
they end up being projected onto the outside world. (ibid, pp 24, 25)
The more we trust in the inner tyrant the more estranged we become from the Higher Self,
which creates the confusion of not knowing who we really are. (ibid, pp 26, 27).
According to the Pathwork, as adults we have a compulsion to recreate and correct the past,
mainly by subconsciously choosing to be in a relationship with people who reflect the
immature aspects of our parents that we project onto them. The resentment we hold as adults is
the resentment we developed as children against our parents. ‘As long as the hurt,
disappointment, and unfulfilled needs of your early years remain unconscious, you cannot
come to terms with them’ (ibid, p36). In this way we are attracted to people who reflect the
ways of our parents. By so doing we try to correct the hurt that was done to us years, even a
lifetime or more, before. All we want is the love we (consciously or subconsciously) know we
didn’t get as a child.
But of course this is an illusion,
The entire procedure is utterly destructive. In the first place, it is an illusion that you
were defeated. Therefore it is an illusion that you can now be victorious. Indeed it is an
illusion that the lack of love… is indeed the tragedy that your subconscious still feels it
to be. (ibid, p37)
No matter how much we loved our parents or how much they loved us, a deep resentment
exists which we remain unaware of, until it is seen and confronted. It was only in the March
workshop that I began to own my lifelong resentment of being hurt by others. Ultimately
boiling down to not receiving the ‘mature’ love I desired from my parents. Once this illusion is
seen and dealt with the vulnerable child will mature into an adult who will no longer expect
love to be given to them but instead always be able to give love without question. (ibid, p32).
In light of this learning we can say that our Lower Self, in all its ignorance, unconsciously
‘chooses negativity, separation, egotism, fear, and distrust’ (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxvi),
However since the lower self is ultimately a distortion of the one divine energy that
animates the universe, it can be transformed back into its original life-affirming vitality.
(Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxvi)
This process of transformation begins with, ‘experiencing the pain of now and the pain of
then’. The Guide insists that we have to look deeply into our current pain, see the emotions that
surround the feeling, and realise that it is the same hurt we experienced in childhood. As an
adult we are experiencing the same pain of not getting the love we desired as a child. Realizing
this illusion will then liberate us from the vicious cycle. (ibid, p40)
In the Guide’s lecture on the God Image he mentions the ‘inner confusion’ that is felt by the
child when she feels that in reality life does not correspond with the image of G-d that they
created in their mind. This is the case of the child that experiences benign authority who
imagines G-d to be forgiving, good, loving, and indulgent. Ultimately the child thinks that she
can avoid self-responsibility because she thinks she can get away with anything. However, this
illusion of ‘cheating life’ leads to inner confusion, ‘generated by a chain reaction of wrong
thinking, feeling, and action. (ibid, p48) This corresponds to my own inner confusion I talked
On the other hand the child will imagine G-d to be a monster if their parents’ ignorance and
fear forbids anything and everything that gives joy to the child. This concept is also an illusion.
Certain measures of both of these G-d images are manifest in all of us. It is a vital part of the
Pathwork to dissolve ones own childhood image of G-d simply by recognising that it is the
The right concept of G-d is to think of It as, ‘an electric current, endowed with supreme
intelligence’. The electric current moves through us – always. It is, ‘among other things, life
and life force’ (ibid, p50). However, the wrong use of the power manifests all the negativities
in our lives, which is a disconnection from the free flowing presence of G-d within, which is
ultimately what all the grief of abandonment is about. I agree with this, having felt the
difference between both the positive free flowing energy and the dark negative energy. My
Petit Mal is both a bane and a gift to me. The condition is a measure of the intensity of my fear
and distrust, but it is also a measure of the path I am travelling on my way to re-connect with
The Pathway Lectures teaches the, ‘path of empowerment through self-responsibility’, and like
the Transpersonal, The Pathway demands, ‘truthfulness with the self, exposure of what exists
now, elimination of masks and pretences, and the experience of ones naked vulnerability’.
(Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pp xvii, 9). I can see that what we learn and experience at the Crucible
is very much grounded in these teachings by way of using the various modalities to succeed in
meeting these demands. I found the book not only clarifying but also illuminating as to the
constructs (or should I say, the de-constructs) of my life.
Having begun this essay in a state of depression, anger, and fear, feeling lonely and isolated,
through the teachings of this book I have regained my hope and optimism that I am on the right path. I must remember that patience certainly is a virtue, and that love runs through me -
Saly, J., Thesenger, D. (1990) The Pathwork of Self Transformation, Eva Pierrakos,
Bantam (New age) Publications, United States.
Graduate Certificate
Eva Pierrakos
The Pathwork of Self-Transformation
Gary Caganoff
April, 2004.
At this stage of my personal growth, feeling my emotions and their stages of intensity, my
loneliness seems to have re-emerged, or spiralled into position ready to be dealt with again. The
Guide, channelled through Pierrakos, says that,
Through the gateway of feeling your loneliness lies your capacity to have fulfilment,
love and companionship. (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxvi)
In the depths of my loneliness I do not feel fulfilled or loved, nor do I have any type of
companionship with anybody or anything, even with G-d. Within my loneliness sits immense
sadness, anger, and fear. Fear of being left out, fear of failing, fear of being lonely for the rest
of my life. Anger at myself, for being so miserable and selfish. Sadness that everything seems
so hopeless. This is not how I envisaged this part of my life. Sometimes, in this frame of mind,
it is the negativities that take me over. The feelings of fulfilment, love and companionship are
smothered by the negativities that influence me. Without mature love I am never truly fulfilled
and am never truly in companionship with anything except my fear.
Through the gateway of feeling your fear lies your security and safety.
(Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxvi)
Security and safety comes from trust – trusting yourself to be able to love maturely. But how
do we do this? Why is it so hard to rid ourselves of all these things that hold us down and stop
us from truly loving? Stopping us from being who we really are? And anyway, who are we
really? In spiritual work we are often told that we are ‘love and light’, but we are seldom told, if
at all, that we are also hatred and darkness. Are we not the sum of our totality? This means that
we have to take into account ALL of ourselves, including our negativities. Most psychologies
and New Age spiritual practices inadvertently discourage us, ‘from taking full responsibility
for our negativities’ (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxv). Also in these same approaches, we are
allowed to blame someone else for our negativities; our parents, past lives, oppressive societal
norms (ibid, pxv). Very rarely, even in the great religions, do we own our negative aspects but
give them over to G-d, Christ, the Church, or our guru.
So, I again feel this loneliness and fear. Now, how do I enter the gateway of these emotions to
discover the treasures that lie beyond?
All my childhood I longed to travel and have adventures. It was a passionate longing that truly
inspired me to go and explore the wild world. However, there was also a longing to become
more worldly, more intelligent, more attractive, and less dumb than what I believed I was. I
wanted to impress people. The need to improve myself was on one level egoic, but on another
level an expression of a much deeper longing. It was an intuitive feeling that, ‘another, more
fulfilling state of consciousness and a larger capacity to experience life must exist’ (ibid, p2). I
went in search of this ‘state’ like young Pacifal in search of the legendary Knights of the
Round Table. I literally climbed great mountains of ice and traversed the mightiest, longest
rivers on the planet searching for wisdom. However, on these journeys I was trying to make
myself the best person I could possibly be, simply to impress. All those journeys through the
landscapes of my own ego and my own soul brought me face to face with the confusion of my
existence. I stared my inadequacies in the face and thus began my search for inner peace.
However, the dualistic nature of the longing for peace caused confusion and contradiction. And
it still does. How can I find peace in myself if I have this longing to find perfection? The desire
for perfection and the act of searching for it contradicts the fact that peace comes from letting go
of pre-conceived notions and accepting life as it is – to become still in the reality of what ‘is’
instead of chasing the illusion I desire so much.
Pierrakos’ Pathway Lectures stress the importance of recognising and owning your own
negativities. This parallels Jung’s insistence of exposing the shadow and integrating it with the
ego in order for the soul to become conscious. On my journeys I tried to run away from my
negativities, however I only succeeded in running into them. I looked at them, but only really
scratched the surface. I admit now, my work is still split between trying to impress, and finding
inner peace. It’s a struggling confusion between head and heart.
Like shadow work, overcoming egoic negative behaviours can be achieved simply by
becoming aware of them and just watching. Reacting to painful situations with rage and
complaining is the result of avoiding that pain and the subsequent feelings around it. If we can
overcome the fear that this pain will annihilate me, or the feeling that this pain will never end,
and ‘just let the pain be… without playing games’ (ibid, p4), to just watch it, then it will,
…release powerful creative energies to increasingly work for you in your life and open
the channels to your spiritual self. Feeling the pain will also yield a deeper, fuller, and
wiser understanding of the connections between cause and effect.
For instance, you will be able to see how this pain was created. The drama of the life situation
is the cause of the deeper issue. For example, I am longing to touch and be touched by the
women I adore, however, because I fear rejection my feeling of deep love for her switches
from the heart to the head. I am then denied contact because she can feel that I am not coming
from the heart, so I fall into a depression of immeasurable sadness. I feel the fear of loneliness
and if I fight it then it turns into frustration and eventually anger. This is the effect. The cause
comes from the fact, according to the Pathway Lectures, that my desire is false – that I am not
taking responsibility for my present state. The more realistic state of my longing is the knowing
that the fulfilment I desire lies within me (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, p3).
The fact that I am unable to hold onto my sense of fulfilment shows how distant I am from my
true self – such a distance that not even my best friend will reach out and take my hand even in
the most beautiful moments. In this situation my frustration, hence the grief beneath it, is
enormous. It seems my life so far has had more physical isolation than contact. I remember in
my mid 20’s a time where I hadn’t touched anyone for at least 18 months. Nothing even as
small as a friendly hug could I give or receive. At the same time I yearned to be touched, held,
The less contact (that) is cultivated, the more acute the longing for contact becomes.
I am slowly learning that the fulfilment I desire lies within me. The pain of past rejection is so
deeply etched in me that it will take some time to heal. I have to take more responsibility for my
present state and constantly keep watch. The answers lie in the instant the confusion hits – the
moment my heart and head are overpowered by the confusion of not knowing who I really am.
Am I this, or am I that? I know my Petit Mal is triggered by the confusion between my head
and heart. Beneath this confusion there is a fear that literally shocks me full of electricity.
Science says this shock originates in the brain, however I feel it originates in my emotional and/
or spiritual heart. The shock is triggered by this deep-set fear. A sandplay I did at The Crucible
a year or so ago, where I put in symbols representing my mother, father, and another women,
also pointed to the fact that this energy of anger comes from my confusion between not being
able to get to either women because my father is in the way. In situations where I am deeply
angry I feel so much like my father. I seem to become him for that particular time of rage. It is
the rage of a little boy wanting to be loved. My father’s father was also distant and emotionally
unavailable to his children too.
To watch this state further will help me understand it more. Insight will come, says the Guide,
‘when you stop the inner fighting and resisting’ (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, p4). It is obvious I
haven’t nearly stopped the fighting and resisting, however, Pierrakos encourages me to just
watch. It will come closer to consciousness if I simply watch it, without attachment. The bliss I
am seeking will come only when I have gone through whatever it is inside of me that prevents
me from experiencing it, so the Guide tells me (ibid, p5). Perhaps the fear is the fear of
rejection, which ultimately is the fear of abandonment – the fear of not being loved by anyone,
The Guide, channelled through Pierrakos, says that there are three levels of human nature. The
inner Higher Self, the central Lower Self, and the outer Mask Self, or the Idealized Self Image.
The latter is the image that we create when we are children in order to attract the love we desire.
To do so we desperately hide our darker, naughtier aspects of ourselves and create a mask to
cover it all (ibid, 22). Hence, it reseeds into the subconscious. In the outer world we proudly
wear our mask of ‘goodness and light’. However, these standards set by the Idealized Self are
impossible to live up to but you never give up trying to uphold them. And in so doing ‘…you
cultivate within yourself an inner tyranny of the worst order’. By not fulfilling the dictates of
this Image you castigate yourself, make yourself feel like a complete failure. The negativity then
rears its ugly head. Because you have not yet owned your negative aspects, your shadows, then
they end up being projected onto the outside world. (ibid, pp 24, 25)
The more we trust in the inner tyrant the more estranged we become from the Higher Self,
which creates the confusion of not knowing who we really are. (ibid, pp 26, 27).
According to the Pathwork, as adults we have a compulsion to recreate and correct the past,
mainly by subconsciously choosing to be in a relationship with people who reflect the
immature aspects of our parents that we project onto them. The resentment we hold as adults is
the resentment we developed as children against our parents. ‘As long as the hurt,
disappointment, and unfulfilled needs of your early years remain unconscious, you cannot
come to terms with them’ (ibid, p36). In this way we are attracted to people who reflect the
ways of our parents. By so doing we try to correct the hurt that was done to us years, even a
lifetime or more, before. All we want is the love we (consciously or subconsciously) know we
didn’t get as a child.
But of course this is an illusion,
The entire procedure is utterly destructive. In the first place, it is an illusion that you
were defeated. Therefore it is an illusion that you can now be victorious. Indeed it is an
illusion that the lack of love… is indeed the tragedy that your subconscious still feels it
to be. (ibid, p37)
No matter how much we loved our parents or how much they loved us, a deep resentment
exists which we remain unaware of, until it is seen and confronted. It was only in the March
workshop that I began to own my lifelong resentment of being hurt by others. Ultimately
boiling down to not receiving the ‘mature’ love I desired from my parents. Once this illusion is
seen and dealt with the vulnerable child will mature into an adult who will no longer expect
love to be given to them but instead always be able to give love without question. (ibid, p32).
In light of this learning we can say that our Lower Self, in all its ignorance, unconsciously
‘chooses negativity, separation, egotism, fear, and distrust’ (Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxvi),
However since the lower self is ultimately a distortion of the one divine energy that
animates the universe, it can be transformed back into its original life-affirming vitality.
(Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pxvi)
This process of transformation begins with, ‘experiencing the pain of now and the pain of
then’. The Guide insists that we have to look deeply into our current pain, see the emotions that
surround the feeling, and realise that it is the same hurt we experienced in childhood. As an
adult we are experiencing the same pain of not getting the love we desired as a child. Realizing
this illusion will then liberate us from the vicious cycle. (ibid, p40)
In the Guide’s lecture on the God Image he mentions the ‘inner confusion’ that is felt by the
child when she feels that in reality life does not correspond with the image of G-d that they
created in their mind. This is the case of the child that experiences benign authority who
imagines G-d to be forgiving, good, loving, and indulgent. Ultimately the child thinks that she
can avoid self-responsibility because she thinks she can get away with anything. However, this
illusion of ‘cheating life’ leads to inner confusion, ‘generated by a chain reaction of wrong
thinking, feeling, and action. (ibid, p48) This corresponds to my own inner confusion I talked
On the other hand the child will imagine G-d to be a monster if their parents’ ignorance and
fear forbids anything and everything that gives joy to the child. This concept is also an illusion.
Certain measures of both of these G-d images are manifest in all of us. It is a vital part of the
Pathwork to dissolve ones own childhood image of G-d simply by recognising that it is the
The right concept of G-d is to think of It as, ‘an electric current, endowed with supreme
intelligence’. The electric current moves through us – always. It is, ‘among other things, life
and life force’ (ibid, p50). However, the wrong use of the power manifests all the negativities
in our lives, which is a disconnection from the free flowing presence of G-d within, which is
ultimately what all the grief of abandonment is about. I agree with this, having felt the
difference between both the positive free flowing energy and the dark negative energy. My
Petit Mal is both a bane and a gift to me. The condition is a measure of the intensity of my fear
and distrust, but it is also a measure of the path I am travelling on my way to re-connect with
The Pathway Lectures teaches the, ‘path of empowerment through self-responsibility’, and like
the Transpersonal, The Pathway demands, ‘truthfulness with the self, exposure of what exists
now, elimination of masks and pretences, and the experience of ones naked vulnerability’.
(Saly, Thesenger, 1990, pp xvii, 9). I can see that what we learn and experience at the Crucible
is very much grounded in these teachings by way of using the various modalities to succeed in
meeting these demands. I found the book not only clarifying but also illuminating as to the
constructs (or should I say, the de-constructs) of my life.
Having begun this essay in a state of depression, anger, and fear, feeling lonely and isolated,
through the teachings of this book I have regained my hope and optimism that I am on the right path. I must remember that patience certainly is a virtue, and that love runs through me -
Saly, J., Thesenger, D. (1990) The Pathwork of Self Transformation, Eva Pierrakos,
Bantam (New age) Publications, United States.
Transforme sua vida
Melhora da auto-estima, capacidade de se relacionar e de ser mais feliz. Esses são os principais resultados obtidos pelo método O caminho , desenvolvido
“A beleza do Caminho está em aceitar com amor e verdade tudo que podemos ser neste momento.
Para mim, o Pathwork ensina o como fazer e transformar nossas crenças limitantes e destrutivas.” Segundo o facilitador Julio Cesar Tafforelli, responsável pelo trabalho em São caetano do Sul S.P, a palavra Caminho significa o trabalho interior.
O caminho para o autoconhecimento, que se baseia no conteúdo de 258 palestras ditadas por um guia espiritual para a austríaca Eva Pierrakos.
Julio conta que o Caminho teve início com Eva e se aperfeiçoou com a ajuda do marido dela, John Pierrakos, psicanalista que foi um dos fundadores da Bio Energética e depois do Core Energetics. Os dois fundaram, em 1972, o primeiro centro de Pathwork em um vale escondido nas montanhas Catskill, perto de Phoenicia.
“Com a criação desse centro, pessoas de outros países passaram a se interessar e iniciaram sua formação. Assim, o Caminho foi se espalhando pelo mundo e agora já é conhecido em todos os continentes.”
Julio diz que o verdadeiro autor do método é um ser desencarnado que falava através de Eva quando ela entrava em um estado alterado de consciência. “O material transmitido ficou conhecido como ‘As Palestras do Guia’ e o processo de transformação pessoal é que é conhecido como ‘O Caminho.”
Há nove anos Maria Helena forma grupos de estudo em Saõ Caetano do Sul para analisar as palestras de Eva. “Esse material é valioso e nos ensina o caminho de como ativar a consciência maior que habita dentro de cada um de nós.”
Ele explica que o estudo dos textos é necessário para trazer à consciência o que ficou ou está bloqueado com concepções errôneas. “Muitas vezes distorcemos a direção das forças criativas universais, que visam buscar vida, crescimento, desabrochar, beleza, amor, inclusão, união e prazer supremo.”
O facilitador esclarece que não existe ligação com nenhuma religião, embora seu conteúdo seja direcionado ao crescimento espiritual. “No Caminho espiritualidade significa autoconhecimento. Conforme adquirimos melhor consciência de quem realmente somos, sem máscaras ou medo do nosso lado menos evoluído, mais nos aproximamos da verdade sobre nós e sobre os outros. Com isso, a capacidade de amar se expande”, afirma.
Além disso, Ana Maria afirma que embora o conteúdo do Pathwork traga informações sobre o comportamento humano não é terapia. “O método esteve ligado a Core Energetics, terapia evolutiva, somente porque contribuiu muito na criação do lado espiritual dessa terapia, pois John Pierrakos era membro da comunidade e marido de Eva.
Ao iniciar o método as pessoas logo obtém resultados positivos porque passam a compreender o que estava inconsciente e resgatam a possibilidade de escolha.
“Isso nos dá um sentimento de liberdade e independência.” Ele explica que muitos dos comportamentos das pessoas são reativos e o método ensina a enxergar claramente o lado “escuro” de cada um, a compreender as próprias raízes e suas causas e, o que é mais importante, como “transformá-los”.
Reconheça qualidades
O método do caminho pode ser feito em sessões individuais, mas o mais indicado é fazê-lo em grupo, pois acelera o processo de autoconhecimento, de acordo com o facilitador.
Ele explica que em grupo cada um dos participantes partilha do próprio processo e com isso contribui para que os outros vejam partes que ainda lhes são obscuras.
Assim como enxergam que o que achavam muito inapropriado em si mesmos é aceito de forma amorosa pelo grupo e que, muitas vezes, nem é realmente um defeito. “Isso é muito curativo para algumas pessoas.” Julio diz que o principal objetivo é o reconhecimento das qualidades e a transformação das negatividades. “O método ensina as pessoas a reconhecer o ‘Eu Real’, a conhecer nosso lado luz e nosso lado mais sombrio, para transformá-lo.”
Livre-se das máscaras
Na psicologia junguiana, o termo “sombra” é empregado para descrever a parte que se prefere não carregar na mente consciente, que se empurra para a escuridão e se espera esquecer. No sistema , esse complexo de falhas de caráter e negatividades é denominado “Eu Interior”, segundo a facilitadora Julio Cesar Tafforelli.
“Ao ocultar o ‘Eu Interior’ se forma a ‘Máscara’, uma auto-imagem idealizada. É como se surgisse uma representação glorificada de quem achamos que deveríamos ser. Os passos iniciais do trabalho são feitos para penetrar a ‘Máscara’ e torná-la consciente do ‘Eu Interior’.”
Para exemplificar esse processo Maria Helena transcreve o texto de uma das palestras: “Embora alguns de vocês possam conhecer suas fraquezas, a maioria das pessoas ignora, uma boa parte delas, e isso é um grande obstáculo, mesmo para aqueles que atingiram uma certa altura neste caminho ascendente. Você não pode superar aquilo que não conhece.
Cada defeito é uma corrente que o prende. Pelo abandono de cada imperfeição você rompe uma cadeia e assim torna-se mais livre e mais próximo da felicidade. A felicidade é o destino de cada indivíduo, mas ela é impossível de obter sem que sejam eliminadas as causas da sua infelicidade que são os seus defeitos, bem como qualquer tendência que viole uma lei espiritual.”
Ele afirma que durante os anos em que trabalha com casais tem testemunhado o sentimento de libertação e felicidade que muitas pessoas conseguem quando não necessitam mais esconder o ‘Eu Interior’ e suas limitações.
“Elas descobrem que seu espaço exterior é apenas uma imagem de espelho, um reflexo do próprio mundo interno. Amorosamente descobrimos o que nos impede de sermos realizados, expressar e construir a beleza, harmonia e abundância. Sinto que não existe caminho mais profundo e libertador que esse.”
DICAS:
:: Uma das observações importantes é a revisão diária. Escreva, todos os dias, os fatos ocorridos em sua vida e quais sentimentos são desencadeados por cada um deles
:: Perceba o que lhe irrita, todas as situações negativas ou de desconforto
:: Observe quais são suas reações emocionais e quais os pensamentos lhe vieram à mente diante dessas situações
Reflita
:: Depois de alguns dias leia e observe como reage ou reagiu
:: Observe a quê, o quê ou a quem reage de forma repetitiva. Isso mostrará imagens pessoais
Melhora da auto-estima, capacidade de se relacionar e de ser mais feliz. Esses são os principais resultados obtidos pelo método O caminho , desenvolvido
“A beleza do Caminho está em aceitar com amor e verdade tudo que podemos ser neste momento.
Para mim, o Pathwork ensina o como fazer e transformar nossas crenças limitantes e destrutivas.” Segundo o facilitador Julio Cesar Tafforelli, responsável pelo trabalho em São caetano do Sul S.P, a palavra Caminho significa o trabalho interior.
O caminho para o autoconhecimento, que se baseia no conteúdo de 258 palestras ditadas por um guia espiritual para a austríaca Eva Pierrakos.
Julio conta que o Caminho teve início com Eva e se aperfeiçoou com a ajuda do marido dela, John Pierrakos, psicanalista que foi um dos fundadores da Bio Energética e depois do Core Energetics. Os dois fundaram, em 1972, o primeiro centro de Pathwork em um vale escondido nas montanhas Catskill, perto de Phoenicia.
“Com a criação desse centro, pessoas de outros países passaram a se interessar e iniciaram sua formação. Assim, o Caminho foi se espalhando pelo mundo e agora já é conhecido em todos os continentes.”
Julio diz que o verdadeiro autor do método é um ser desencarnado que falava através de Eva quando ela entrava em um estado alterado de consciência. “O material transmitido ficou conhecido como ‘As Palestras do Guia’ e o processo de transformação pessoal é que é conhecido como ‘O Caminho.”
Há nove anos Maria Helena forma grupos de estudo em Saõ Caetano do Sul para analisar as palestras de Eva. “Esse material é valioso e nos ensina o caminho de como ativar a consciência maior que habita dentro de cada um de nós.”
Ele explica que o estudo dos textos é necessário para trazer à consciência o que ficou ou está bloqueado com concepções errôneas. “Muitas vezes distorcemos a direção das forças criativas universais, que visam buscar vida, crescimento, desabrochar, beleza, amor, inclusão, união e prazer supremo.”
O facilitador esclarece que não existe ligação com nenhuma religião, embora seu conteúdo seja direcionado ao crescimento espiritual. “No Caminho espiritualidade significa autoconhecimento. Conforme adquirimos melhor consciência de quem realmente somos, sem máscaras ou medo do nosso lado menos evoluído, mais nos aproximamos da verdade sobre nós e sobre os outros. Com isso, a capacidade de amar se expande”, afirma.
Além disso, Ana Maria afirma que embora o conteúdo do Pathwork traga informações sobre o comportamento humano não é terapia. “O método esteve ligado a Core Energetics, terapia evolutiva, somente porque contribuiu muito na criação do lado espiritual dessa terapia, pois John Pierrakos era membro da comunidade e marido de Eva.
Ao iniciar o método as pessoas logo obtém resultados positivos porque passam a compreender o que estava inconsciente e resgatam a possibilidade de escolha.
“Isso nos dá um sentimento de liberdade e independência.” Ele explica que muitos dos comportamentos das pessoas são reativos e o método ensina a enxergar claramente o lado “escuro” de cada um, a compreender as próprias raízes e suas causas e, o que é mais importante, como “transformá-los”.
Reconheça qualidades
O método do caminho pode ser feito em sessões individuais, mas o mais indicado é fazê-lo em grupo, pois acelera o processo de autoconhecimento, de acordo com o facilitador.
Ele explica que em grupo cada um dos participantes partilha do próprio processo e com isso contribui para que os outros vejam partes que ainda lhes são obscuras.
Assim como enxergam que o que achavam muito inapropriado em si mesmos é aceito de forma amorosa pelo grupo e que, muitas vezes, nem é realmente um defeito. “Isso é muito curativo para algumas pessoas.” Julio diz que o principal objetivo é o reconhecimento das qualidades e a transformação das negatividades. “O método ensina as pessoas a reconhecer o ‘Eu Real’, a conhecer nosso lado luz e nosso lado mais sombrio, para transformá-lo.”
Livre-se das máscaras
Na psicologia junguiana, o termo “sombra” é empregado para descrever a parte que se prefere não carregar na mente consciente, que se empurra para a escuridão e se espera esquecer. No sistema , esse complexo de falhas de caráter e negatividades é denominado “Eu Interior”, segundo a facilitadora Julio Cesar Tafforelli.
“Ao ocultar o ‘Eu Interior’ se forma a ‘Máscara’, uma auto-imagem idealizada. É como se surgisse uma representação glorificada de quem achamos que deveríamos ser. Os passos iniciais do trabalho são feitos para penetrar a ‘Máscara’ e torná-la consciente do ‘Eu Interior’.”
Para exemplificar esse processo Maria Helena transcreve o texto de uma das palestras: “Embora alguns de vocês possam conhecer suas fraquezas, a maioria das pessoas ignora, uma boa parte delas, e isso é um grande obstáculo, mesmo para aqueles que atingiram uma certa altura neste caminho ascendente. Você não pode superar aquilo que não conhece.
Cada defeito é uma corrente que o prende. Pelo abandono de cada imperfeição você rompe uma cadeia e assim torna-se mais livre e mais próximo da felicidade. A felicidade é o destino de cada indivíduo, mas ela é impossível de obter sem que sejam eliminadas as causas da sua infelicidade que são os seus defeitos, bem como qualquer tendência que viole uma lei espiritual.”
Ele afirma que durante os anos em que trabalha com casais tem testemunhado o sentimento de libertação e felicidade que muitas pessoas conseguem quando não necessitam mais esconder o ‘Eu Interior’ e suas limitações.
“Elas descobrem que seu espaço exterior é apenas uma imagem de espelho, um reflexo do próprio mundo interno. Amorosamente descobrimos o que nos impede de sermos realizados, expressar e construir a beleza, harmonia e abundância. Sinto que não existe caminho mais profundo e libertador que esse.”
DICAS:
:: Uma das observações importantes é a revisão diária. Escreva, todos os dias, os fatos ocorridos em sua vida e quais sentimentos são desencadeados por cada um deles
:: Perceba o que lhe irrita, todas as situações negativas ou de desconforto
:: Observe quais são suas reações emocionais e quais os pensamentos lhe vieram à mente diante dessas situações
Reflita
:: Depois de alguns dias leia e observe como reage ou reagiu
:: Observe a quê, o quê ou a quem reage de forma repetitiva. Isso mostrará imagens pessoais
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